Couldn't have said it better myself.
It definately gets harder once you're out of school. I'm only taking a break from college and moved about 40 minutes away from it, and I have made 2 friends max. since I've moved- 2 months ago.
I wonder if people have as hard a time making friends with other girls as I do? Maybe I'm just too damn cynical.
Well, by clicking on "Glenside" on your user page, I came up with 135 LJ people in Glenside, PA. Why not investigate the journals of some of them and seeif you can find people with whom you have things in common? Looking for local activities in which you're interested can really open doors, if once you get there you reach out to people.
One of the other things that seems to get in the way as we get older is that we seem to become much more worried about what people will think of us if we do or say certain things, or worse yet the WRONG THINGS. On the other hand, as you pointed out, it seems that once SOEONE makes a move, everyone else breathes this sigh of relief and then life moves on.
Your post is most timely, as I'd also been feeling at a bit of a loss for friends lately. I'll have to get off my butt and get to work on that. Thanks
2004-03-21 10:19 pm (UTC)
Re: Making Friends
It takes a little effort, but it is definitely worth it. Good luck!!
Whatever social group I join, I always gravitate to the person who turns out (sometimes after a while) to be a looney. I think it's my mistake for targeting people who seem "interesting". Heh.
That can be an issue. But you have to start somewhere!
One of my dearest friends and I met on our first day of university. We happened to be sitting near each other, and struck up a conversation; we found we had a lot in common.
As the class ended, I said: "We have way too much in common. I think we should be friends."
And we have been ever since.
Agreed... let the snow end.. ^^;;
There's still snow on the ground after three straight days of flurries hit us in RI mid-week. And I managed to slip in it today, and make all my stuff go flying into the dirty snow. I guess it was good that I at least missed the mud. :\
Ouch. No fun. I am more than ready for spring.
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Write me back. Your friend,
I miss being a kid, sometimes. I really do. I'm lucky in that I have "retail" social skills, so I greet people easily. Sustaining conversation without common interests is difficult for me, though.
If you ever make it to West Georgia, count on me knocking on your "door" and asking you and theferrett
to come outside and play -- or dinner at the very least.
I admire you both more than I could express without sounding like a stalker. ;)
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Georgia isn't really on my projected places to land, but then again neither was Cleveland, so you never know. We may come down there and visit some day, in any event, and it would be great to get together with y'all.
I so totally agree with your thoughts about making friends. It definitely is more difficult as you get older. I have a few friends that I've made since graduating, but not many. Most of them are online friends, actually, a good many I've never met physically, yet still consider to be friends. The playground analogy is great, because it's so true! It's harder I think, as adults, to get past the awkwardness of 'Hey, wanna play?' than it was when we were kids.
It is tougher, particularly if you live in an area where people tend to stay put. I go to school with people who've known each other since gradeschool - they don't have any pressing need for new pals, because their whole lives have happened right here in Cleveland. It's not always easy to get a toehold, but it can be done.
Most eloquently put!
I like your new icons, btw ;)
I thought you would. [g] (And I did ask Melissa first.)
Did you notice that I put a link to Edge of the World on my info page?
since about half the people i know/read seem to talk about you all the time, thought i might as well wander over and see what's up..hope you don't mind?
2004-03-22 07:05 pm (UTC)
Re: hello :-D
Um... People are talking about me? Wow, I had no idea.
I don't mind at all, welcome, and I've added you back.
Yeah, it was snowing here yesterday too... :p
See, I was getting all ready to pull out my "What do you know of Winter, silly American! You know nothing of the season, Southlander!" rant. Then I remembered. You've lived in Alaska. You actually know what a winter can be like. So I've decided to just leave it at: I feel your pain, and always remember that it could be worse.*
*Currently I live in Fredericton NB, where the winters aren't too bad, really, but I used to live on the prairies... so anytime I want to bitch about the weather, I think about the day I had to walk to school backwards.