Beautiful. Absolutely beautiful.
My husband and I are going to be married four years this coming November and we've been through some struggles. I'm sure we'll go through more. But the idea of choosing everything? I love it. And I will, if ever faced with the choice.
Thank you for our words.
I bet that was beautiful, however, the whole time I was reading it, all I saw was "smoothie, Smoothie, SMOOTHIE," and thus, I caught none of it. However, I am curious, did it actually say "smoothie" somewhere or am I just in serious need or a beverage?
*snuggles you and your ferrett* you two are my role model of a healthy, functioning relationship. thank you
And the miracle that can be born when you just won't give up.
My husband and I went through a similar trial a year ago and decided to "not give up." And its the best thing we've ever done. Miracles truly do happen.
Congratulations on sticking it out and staying the course. You're both awesome :) (hugs)
2004-09-19 04:15 am (UTC)
Not very many people take the hard way and stick with it. . .but we're glad we did.
Happy anniversary, you two, and you both act like you've been married for ages, in the good way. I would have thought for sure it was for much longer!
Mrs. Ferrett, I no longer wonder about arranged marriages. I know that I have to find the love you describe, no matter what trials I face. I've read the Ferrett's bio and his side of matters, and it's very very beautiful to see his feelings reciprocated.
You never fail to post at least one thing every month or two that automatically needs to be included in my LJ Memories.
I'm so happy to read about people forging bonds like these. It goes against the cynical nature and predictions of many of the attitudes around here in the media and elsewhere.
Many blessings to you both! :)
I get all emotional late at night. Congratulations!
You are an inspiration to us all.
Me and Mrs. Happydog will be celebrating 9 years this November. You are dead right that marriage is about (a) not giving up and (b) choosing everything instead of nothing.
Happy anniversary to you both.
Aw fuck, now you went and made me cry...darned it.
You two deserve each other. You deserve all the happiness and joy that can possibly be stuffed into someone's life. I fucking envy you both. But in a good way. *hug*
Congratulations on making it work and finding your way back to each other rather than letting each other go.
May you have a most excellent anniversary!
Giving up when it's good but troubled is definitely the wrong move. I've managed 18 years with someone who agrees with me on that, and that's a big reason why.
It is so wonderful to be married to a man with whom one can both laugh and agree and fight and rant and be a total bitch because, at that center, is that essence of relationship that is both love and friendship. If there is lust thrown in for fun then it can be both perfect i.e. complete and continuously fun, even when you reach the mental or physical point wherein your lovemaking uses your largest sexual organ more often than your genitalia.
Congratulations on five years and may you live to celebrate your 50th together and still in love and liking each other. What you wrote was beautiful, made more so by its very honesty and truth along with the inherent wisdom you both show in all of your writings.
That's much better than when a person gives up without even trying - for both parties. Unfortunately, on the way to marriage when troubles struck, things didn't work out so well for me. I told the person I was with the things that we needed to work on, and she just freaked out and gave up. Apparently she didn't think she needed to change anything about herself (which is pretty much what she told me). Now she calls me all the time and moans about how lonely she is. "You had your chance" is all I've got to say to her now.
It's good to see that *some* people out there are willing to put the work necessary to make a commitment a commitment.
:) thank you for writing this post.
I first met Ferrett shortly after your move to Cleveland. I remember being a faithful reader of starcitygames.com at that point, and him posting a message saying he was moving to Cleveland and asking for people in the area that played Magic. I happily responded, because Ferrett was my second favorite writer (first being John F. Rizzo). When Ferrett invited me over for a day of Odyssey sealed practice, and I had the pleasure of meeting the both of you, I was overjoyed. Ferrett told me how much he loved you, and how perfect of a person you were.
I cannot tell you how right he was. I feel blessed to have met you both, and I am glad that your relationship has survived. Having the chance to be reintroduced into your lives was a great thing, and I hope that for years to come I will be able to sporatically enter your lives again.
My best wishes for tomorrow, and for the years to come!
this is beautiful. blessings on both of you and your marriage.
2004-09-19 07:55 am (UTC)
your garden variety australian livejournal stalker.
I've been reading your journal for ages now.
I have to say this one thing though.
"You are beautful, beyound the structures of this world."
~warm smile~ ..beautiful. Congratulations you... and you're right, it's SO worth the fight and the effort, I know it too.
Blessings and many more happy years to you both.