Now that is a sweet post.
You've got a good man, there.
But you know, he's got a good woman in you.
Yay for Ferrett. That's true love. I liked the part where you said it's the kind of love that counts.
I liked the part where you said it's the kind of love that counts.
You liked it, I disagreed with it. I think those are the kinds of actions that count.
God, if I had a nickel for every time I've had this conversation:
"But baby, I looooove you!"
"I'm so sorry. If only love were enough, but it isn't."
I see where you're coming from with this. But I think I was thinking about it more in an "agape"/unconditional love kind of way. In other words, not necessarily the actions but the concept of "I love you enough to stand by you even when everything isn't great, fantastic, and all about us as a couple." The actions are the expression of that emotion and outlook.
I agree with zoethe
that we may have just been expressing ourselves differently. I think I've heard the words "I love you" with nothing apparent to back them up too many times; I'm a tad cynical.
I wrote this
a few months ago and it sums up my feelings well.
Yeah, it's pretty much the same thing, just different terms.
That's love that says. There is love that says and love that does. I don't think we are disagreeing with each other, just using different terminology.
Dang, I wish I had that kind of support in law school. :)
I know how lucky I am, believe me.
I am glad you have this kind of support. You and the ferrett give me hope that maybe love's not all such a bunch of crock after all.
I WANT that hair.
You and me both, sister.
Ferrett and I saw her in person at the first Farscape convention (we went for our honeymoon). The amazing thing to realize is that she doesn't photograph particularly well - she is even more beautiful in real life.
Awww, that's really fantastic. Sounds like you guys have a wonderful marriage. Seeing that kind of "love success" in just everyday life gives me hope for my future.
Yeah, that's one of the things I've come to understand as I've grown up 'n' been married awhile. The "legendary love-life" is a lot of fun. Having someone who'll take care of you and help when things are hard keeps things together and going.
You've got a good man there. You're a lucky woman. And I'm happy for you both.
It's taken us a lot of work to grow to a place where we can both be this good to each other. Thanks.
You're very welcome. And, yeah, it does take a lot of work, on both sides, to build something that good and that solid. The idea that all you need is *deep sigh* LOVE (as in passion/infatuation) is one of the most damnable fallacies the media's fed to us. It's nice, and certainly make things more enjoyable. However, by itself it doesn't really do much....especially in regard to building what you 'n' your man have together.
You two both just RAWK!!
Awwwww! How cute! I hope we end up that way.
<=== Is getting married in 2 weeks
And, DAYUM, that icon's hot!
Thanks. I love it myself; it's great to get to share it.
Ooo, congrats! It's not simple - we had to work very hard to get here - but it's worth it.
Best of luck to you! Best thing I can recommend is to not run from problems that come up. Face 'em head-on and as soon as is reasonably and prudently possible. It avoids resentments building up and having to undo nasty habits.
Its a good thing you guys have going. :)
Ain't cuddly goodness grand?
I am now green with envy and jealousy. And thoroughly confused as to which of you I should be envious/jealous of. lol
although i know you two speak a lot I find it amazing that you would would write it down as a different form of showing your appreciation. It's not only in what he does but the way that you show your love and gratitude toward him that builds and strengthen your bond. Very few people are wise enough to do this....Yay for both of you
Aw, thanks. I just love him.
It took Ferrett a little while to grok that, though he gets in the mood when ill, that is not necessarily a universal trait.
And, yes, the icon is wonderfully yummy.
I'm at that lovely stage where we're both crying and frustrated...but for some reason neither one of us wants to give up.
We've been there. The thing that saved us was, when love seemed impossible, we still liked each other - he was still someone I wanted to talk to and tell stories and he made me laugh. We had to work back up from there. It wasn't easy, but it was SO worth it.
What a beautiful way to honor your sweetie. :)
2005-03-26 12:21 pm (UTC)
That makes me so misty eyed. And gives me hope :D