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Nobody puts Baby in a clicky-box [Jul. 10th, 2006|11:18 am]
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Last night I engaged in one of the great rites of passage for a young woman. I showed my 14-year-old daughter Amy Dirty Dancing for the very first time.

She came to the movie with considerable cynicism: a movie set in the early 60s where a girl grows up by hanging out with the "wrong people"? Wasn't that movie called Grease? I had to all but physically wrest the computer games away from her so she would pay attention.

By the end she was completely enraptured. "That was the best movie, Mom!"

Ferrett walked into the livingroom and simply shook his head, perplexed. He cannot understand how I - and other women who are good friends of ours, all people with relatively good taste in movies - can adore this particular bit of tripe with the devotion that we do. Our extremely informal and limited polls indicate, however, that this movie is some kind of great dividing line between male and female. In groups of many couples, uniformly upon the mention of the film all the women smile and all the men roll their eyes.

I can't really explain it. I have no tolerance for most romantic comedies, no tolerance for most teenage movies, no tolerance for most smarmy romances. And yet I love this movie. Surely it isn't just Patrick Swayze's hotness - after all, I haven't purchased Road House no fewer than three times (in fact, not at all, despite the extreme hotness).

I don't think there is a good answer to the question - though any commentor who wants to offer one is welcome. But I am curious if our experience of this movie as the best indicator of two "x" chromosomes has any veracity. So, a useless poll!

Describe your sexuality and your attitude toward Dirty Dancing

I am a heterosexual woman and I like/love it
140(27.3%)
I am a heterosexual woman and I dislike/hate it
55(10.7%)
I am a lesbian and I like/love it
9(1.8%)
I am a lesbian and I dislike/hate it
6(1.2%)
I am a heterosexual man and I like/love it
26(5.1%)
I am a heterosexual man and I dislike/hate it
54(10.5%)
I am a gay male and I like/love it
1(0.2%)
I am a gay male and I dislike/hate it
4(0.8%)
I am a bisexual woman and I like/love it
95(18.5%)
I am a bisexual woman and I dislike/hate it
23(4.5%)
I am a bisexual man and I like/love it
4(0.8%)
I am a bisexual man and I dislike/hate it
5(1.0%)
I consider myself gender neutral and I like/love it
3(0.6%)
I consider myself gender neutral and I dislike/hate it
6(1.2%)
I sincerely have no opinion whatsoever on this movie, but cannot pass by a poll without clicking something
82(16.0%)


And wow. I have no Dirty Dancing icon. Must rectify that situation. But for now, back to studying. EDIT Thank you, myrrhdusa!
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[User Picture]From: elfwench
2006-07-10 03:39 pm (UTC)
lord_keeper and I both love that movie. In fact, he's the one who introduced me to it. And, we just watched it yesterday again ourselves.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2006-07-10 05:15 pm (UTC)
You are a lucky, lucky woman.

;-)
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[User Picture]From: sacramentalist
2006-07-10 03:39 pm (UTC)
Bah! Women are all the same.

Know what? I thought I found the perfect woman because she was the only woman I knew who didn't cry while watching "BEACHES". Fast forward seven years and she started playing "Wind Beneath my Wings" incessantly. We had to split up.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2006-07-10 03:46 pm (UTC)
Dude, how can you not cry watching Beaches?

Sometimes I really am a girl.
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From: going_not_gone
2006-07-10 03:41 pm (UTC)
I have watched this movie with a gay male friend, and he wanted to rewind and rewatch all the same scenes I did. Just sayin.'

Patrick Swayze is SO freaking hot in this movie, the rest of it is beside the point.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2006-07-10 03:46 pm (UTC)
He is indeed. It was the first time that Amy has allowed me to agree with her re: the hotness. I consider it a sign that my little girl is growing up.
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[User Picture]From: roniliquidity
2006-07-10 03:42 pm (UTC)
I like the film well enough, though I haven't seen it since I was about 15. Though I suspect it's because I had a friend that was MADLY obessed with it. Like constantly practiced the dance routines, alone, in her basement.

I do still pull out the CD from time to time.

I suspect the love of the movie has to do with it being sexy, but still innocent. Adventurous, but not too dangerous, the kind of coming of age most women wish they had. Too often the coming of age movies involve something terrible happening to the protagonist, or someone close to them. In this, they get off relatively unscathed.

But then again, I haven't seen it in a very long time, though now I want to. :)
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2006-07-10 03:49 pm (UTC)
Yeah, it does have a certain fantasy aspect to it, and I suspect the fact that Jennifer Gray is not classic pretty (fuzzy hair, irregular nose) but does not have to go through some kind of Cinderella transformation in order to get the totally hot guy is appealing, too.
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[User Picture]From: pkthunder
2006-07-10 03:48 pm (UTC)
I think it's the Keds.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2006-07-10 03:50 pm (UTC)
True; how can you not love Keds?
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[User Picture]From: ladyoflight2004
2006-07-10 03:51 pm (UTC)
I wore out the video with the constant rewinds(!) and now I've bought the DVD .. And grandad42 says it's one of his favourite films. But then he's my big softie so I'm not complaining.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2006-07-10 03:53 pm (UTC)
You know, I just realized that I'd never friended you. Much to my surprise. D'oh!
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[User Picture]From: kmg_365
2006-07-10 03:52 pm (UTC)
Our extremely informal and limited polls indicate, however, that this movie is some kind of great dividing line between male and female.

In my circle of friends, the dividing line is Buckaroo Bonzai. The women love it and the men just don't get the appeal.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2006-07-10 03:53 pm (UTC)
Huh. The guys in my circle like it.
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[User Picture]From: dagrrl
2006-07-10 03:55 pm (UTC)
My boyfriend won't let me have it in the house. I still don't understand his adamant decree against Dirty Dancing, but I intend to sneak a copy when my daughter is older, too.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2006-07-10 04:17 pm (UTC)
Put your foot down, woman! Stand up for your right to get all mushy over dancing! ;-)
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[User Picture]From: loralai
2006-07-10 03:57 pm (UTC)
i like the movie but i can never watch it more than once every few years or my brain tries to explode.

then again, i grew up watching a lot of those 60-80s romance, girly, teen-coming-of-age-arkward-girl movies.
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[User Picture]From: myrrhdusa
2006-07-10 03:58 pm (UTC)
Found this for you:


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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2006-07-10 04:00 pm (UTC)
Thank you! It's perfect!!!!
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[User Picture]From: littlebuhnee
2006-07-10 03:59 pm (UTC)
Every time the damn thing comes on, I want to go, "Ewww, lame!" and pass on by. But, invariably, I end up watching the whole damn movie and am sobbing by the end while I hiccup out, "She does the jump. She does the JUMP!"

God, I'm tearing up now... :P
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2006-07-10 04:06 pm (UTC)
One of us....
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[User Picture]From: jfargo
2006-07-10 04:01 pm (UTC)
I'm completely with your hubby on this one. Cannot stand that movie.

Then again I also have a dislike for Grease, so I think that might just make me a heathen.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2006-07-10 04:04 pm (UTC)
Clearly a strange, incomprehensible sub-species.
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[User Picture]From: funwithrage
2006-07-10 04:04 pm (UTC)
I like it for a couple reasons:


It's a romantic movie that isn't, unlike most Julia Roberts/Meg Ryan type flicks, based on people acting stupid or neurotic. Baby and Johnny mess up, sure, and they have their issues, but by and large they're smart kids trying to do the right thing by each other and the world. Functional protagonists FTW and all that.


Sixties nostalgia.


High school nostalgia. I went to boarding school: during finals week, the dorm common room had "Dirty Dancing" and "Pride and Prejudice" alternating on continual play. After going and taking your Chem final, you could slump down all "...oh, so she's dancing at the Sheldrake, got it." and enter right back in. It was great.


Good stuff.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2006-07-10 04:05 pm (UTC)
I think you are right. There's never a moment when you are thinking, "oh you idiot!"

Plus nostalgia. And a great soundtrack.
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[User Picture]From: kmg_365
2006-07-10 04:04 pm (UTC)
Oh, and I have to add: hate the movie, but we spent our honeymoon at the resort where they filmed the movie. There was only one television there, and all it played (on continuous loop): you guessed it, Dirty Dancing.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2006-07-10 04:07 pm (UTC)
Okay, I can see that being irritating.
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[User Picture]From: mamaursula
2006-07-10 04:05 pm (UTC)
Dirty Dancing absolutely defines my high school years. The guy I dated at the time had great rhythm and loved the movie, we went to every freaking dance or club we could and ground the hell out of each other's crotches. Of course, we broke up badly, but who cares, we danced like fools and it was awesome!
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2006-07-10 04:09 pm (UTC)
Ah, the past. It's such fun to revisit.
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