Avoid people who bring you down is a good one.
2.) dont' get emotional about much...is another one.
Don't get emotional is a BIG one. Some people leap onto the offensive with big emotions and create volcanoes out of speedbumps.
Added that to my memories, thanks!
2006-12-21 07:20 pm (UTC)
Smile. Find one person a day to smile at, and really mean it when you do it.
Many thanks. Would you mind if I pass it along in my journal? I'd credit your wisdom of course. :)
2006-12-21 07:58 pm (UTC)
Re: I loved this!
Copying with proper credit and linkage is always welcome!
I love you, in case I haven't said it lately.
How about Surround yourself with smart wonderful people. That's you.
thank you for the life lesson reminders...I think I needed those this week.
Hey, believe me when I say I often write these to remind myself!
This is going into memories. Life lessons.
A life-lesson that has made a difference for me is Choose your battles
Now see, if those were the commandments everybody wanted to put up in courthouses, I would be right there with them.
Number three is one that worries me about my now-ex-boyfriend. However, number six includes letting people live their own lives, even if you disagree with their choices. Which is something *I* need to work on. So thank you for writing this - it's good to have reminders like this every now and then.
Like I said, they aren't profound, just hard to remember.
10. Think before opening your mouth.
2. Be grateful for what you've got. Some people constantly compare the troubles of others to their own so that they can prove that they are really the one who has it bad. Trust me; there will always be people above you on the scale and there will always be people below you. (I can say this with certainty, because the people truly at the top or bottom are not reading my damned journal!) I say stop worrying about it. Celebrate the good fortune of your friends - they didn't get it at your expense.
I am grateful for what I've got and I know it can get worse - and worse scares me, especially on my bad days (like today) where I'm keeping that in mind to keep perspective. Because I know my pain today doesn't begin to compare to what a cancer patient goes through. But what galls me is people who have it more fortunate in both health and prosperity who go on and on about how broke they are or how sick they are. And I read these posts and really often think, "Man, you don't know what pain or broke is, it can be worse, I'm living worse, and I know that there's still worse." No, I don't think this makes me any better or worse than anyone else, I just get frustrated when people don't realize.
You continually amaze me with your cheerful disposition in the midst of a truly bad situation. Yeah, you have really hard days, but you manage to look at the bright side an astounding amount. You and kimmaline are both heroes to me for that.
And I totally agree with you that there are certain people to whom one wants to say, "Hello-oo! Reality check?!"
hmm... I agree with being grateful for what one has, I try to be grateful. Even when I complain, I always say it could be worse...and count my lucky stars that we do have what we have.
Thank you for posting this, at times people need to remember these very things.
No one remembers them all the time, but it helps to try.
never lose your sense of humour ... seeing the funny side of the situation can get you through almost anything.
Well, not as interesting as penises, but that's your specialty. ;-)
Have parties... surrounding yourself with the people you love and doing the things that make you all happy.
Indulge... no one ever said it was a bad thing to spend a little extra money on yourself or someone else. Or eat more fatty foods sometimes, skip exercise for a day, or drink a little more than usual.
I think those are two good ones.
Yup. Especially this time of year!
My Dad's frequent advice: If you recieve a negative comment from someone, "consider the source". If it's from someone you admire, consider whether you do need to improve in some way. If the person speaking is someone who hasn't got their own act together, feel free to let it go.
Man, I wish I'd learned that years ago.
2006-12-22 03:27 pm (UTC)
These are the four that I live by;
1)Be Impeccable With Your Word,
Not just in terms of following through with "I give you my word", but every time you open your mouth. Be sure not to use your word to harm yourself or others.
2)Take Nothing Personally
Things that other people do, are not all about you. Despite the fact that I can see equally far in all directions, it turns out that I am not, in fact, the center of the universe. The negativity of others, while it may be directed at you, is not about you, it is about them.
4)Always Do Your Best
Be aware that humans are creatures in flux, and what is your best on Tuesday may be overshadowed by your efforts on Friday and yet looks great in comparison to what you can muster on Sunday. Give what you can at all times, no more, no less.
These are not my creation, they are what is known as the Four Agreements of Toltec philosophy.
Those are awesome. Thank you for sharing them.
Excellent guidelines...I would just add a couple of The Four Agreements
and it would work perfectly for me.
Most adults in American society don't think of themselves as particularly creative or particularly talented. I recently had to put together a talent show at work, and it was like pulling teeth, because I'm the "talented" one. (I got people to do readings, and it was fabulous.) Knit, quilt, draw, paint, sing, make something with Play-Doh...it doesn't matter what it is or if it's any good at all; it's the process that matters. Get some crayons and a coloring book if that's your comfort level, just MAKE something. You can do more than you think you can.
Take care of something
This one might not be a good idea for everyone, but I really think it's beneficial to be a caretaker for something. Me, I'm not ready to have kids, but I do OK by the cats, and they love me back. If an animal is too much (and they do take work), get a plant. Cactuses are hard to kill.
Thank you for the reminders.
Create is a terrific one. I find that moving back into that is opening up my soul again.
Moderation: Moderation in all things, including moderation. Once in a while give yourself permission to cut loose, eat too much, drink too much, dance in a fountatin in Paris.
Be Open: Be honest with the world about who and what you are. Skeletons in the closet can't hurt you if you don't have any. If you'd be embarrassed or ashamed or think people would think you're an asshole if they knew what you said/did... maybe you should think again about saying/doing it.
If you'd be embarrassed or ashamed or think people would think you're an asshole if they knew what you said/did... maybe you should think again about saying/doing it.
One that we could all stand to remember.
As I read the first line, I thought to myself, "Oh, so that's why theferrett
After that, it got much more sensible.