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[Jan. 2nd, 2008|03:58 pm]
Zoethe
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The New Year's Eve party was a lot of fun. Too much fun. We didn't go to sleep until 6:30 in the morning, then I woke up at 9:40 to make breakfast. After people left, I went back to bed at about noon (and thank you again to mysterg who is a compulsive early riser and who used his time up and alone to pick up and clean up the gigantimous mess we'd left all over the house). I got back up at 1pm when our final guest roused herself, then at 3 had to lay down for another hour before justbeast and catvalente arrived to play a little rock Band and the head to the Velvet Tango Room for their New Year's Day shindig. I was in my jammies until 4pm, and then soaked in the bathtub for an hour.

In other words, I did nothing fruitful all day long.

Now, I'm lucky this year, because my only New Year's resolution was to stop playing solitaire, and I did not play any. But that was an easy resolution to keep. If my resolution had been something like "work out every day" or "start a diet," that January 1 would have been a wasted day.

See, the problem with January 1 is that it's a holiday. No one wants to put on a hair shirt for a holiday. The last bunch of parties before the long, slow winter are held on January 1. So my solution is that resolutions should only kick in on January 2. That avoids failure on the first day - you have permission not to start until the holiday is over.

But what do you think? When should New Year's resolutions go into effect?

When should New Year's Resolutions take effect?

At the stroke of midnight! Put down that drink and go for a jog!
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8am January 1. Sleeping in is for the weak.
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When you wake up on January 1. That's all the slack you're gonna get this year.
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January 2. January 1 is still part of the holiday and asking yourself to start on it is a recipe for failure.
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January 2 unless it happens to fall on a Friday or weekend, then the first Monday in January. Enjoy that extended holiday.
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I think New Years Resolutions are a stupid waste of time, but I can't resist radio buttons so it's a good thing you gave me an option to keep me from scewing up your poll.
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[User Picture]From: djeu
2008-01-02 09:13 pm (UTC)
My New Year's Resolution was giving up radio buttons. I didn't make it that long.
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[User Picture]From: thejunebug
2008-01-02 09:23 pm (UTC)
Hehehe!
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2008-01-02 09:37 pm (UTC)
*snerk*
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[User Picture]From: mamaursula
2008-01-03 02:45 am (UTC)
You, me and 42 other people at current count. Good thing I don't believe in resolutions ;-)
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[User Picture]From: theinfamousmom
2008-01-02 09:15 pm (UTC)
I'm cutting myself some slack to the end of the week in which New Year's Day appears. Next Monday for sure. Really. Yep. Uh huh. :)
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2008-01-02 09:37 pm (UTC)
Love the icon.
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[User Picture]From: heathrow
2008-01-02 09:18 pm (UTC)
I like resolutions, but I refuse to start them in January. It just seems like setting yourself up for failure! For example, I started going to the gym in late September. I've been keeping it up since then. However, I am annoyed by the increase in people at the Y this week, so I fear it may deter me from going if I have to wait forever for machines.

March should be safe again.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2008-01-02 09:38 pm (UTC)
Probably very wise.
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[User Picture]From: heathrow
2008-01-02 09:39 pm (UTC)
I hope so. My big focus is doing some sort of activity for 30 minutes at least 2x a week. While that isn't enough to affect change, it makes me emotionally feel better.
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[User Picture]From: jenk
2008-01-04 06:13 pm (UTC)
I've been tricking myself into exercising by riding the bus. There's a half-mile walk from work to the stop I need, plus other walking between buses and home. It works because my good intentions only have to last long enough to get me on the bus in the morning.

Helps that taxis aren't common in the suburbs where I live and work.

I also rationalize that my (subsidized by work) bus pass is cheaper than a gym membership.
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[User Picture]From: the_siobhan
2008-01-02 09:48 pm (UTC)
Don't worry, it dies down again in a couple of weeks.
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[User Picture]From: heathrow
2008-01-02 09:49 pm (UTC)
I shouldn't nay-say other people, but I just wish they would get the heck off the weight machines I need to use! :D
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[User Picture]From: celamity
2008-01-02 09:30 pm (UTC)
I love how at the moment, the votes are almost a triangle: 0, 1, 3, 7, 9, 10 :)
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[User Picture]From: pkthunder
2008-01-02 09:57 pm (UTC)
"It depends".

Last year my resolution was to stop drinking soda, so that was a stroke-of-midnight kind of resolution.

I prefer to make goals, so those can start whenever, as long as they're completed (or I at least tried to complete them) by Dec 31.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2008-01-02 11:12 pm (UTC)
That's a good approach.
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From: wildcelticrose
2008-01-02 09:59 pm (UTC)
If you had done ticky boxes, I'd have checked the last three...

I decided to eat and drink and lay around too much yesterday.

I'm a bit more "resolved" today ;) because it's a "regular" day.

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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2008-01-02 11:14 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I thought about ticky boxes, but people have to choose, darnit!

Just finished working out myself - go me!
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[User Picture]From: dawn_guy
2008-01-02 10:00 pm (UTC)
I don't think making resolutions and working to keep them is stupid or a waste of time, but it seems the closest choice for me.

I think resolutions should be made whenever the resolver feels ready, to take effect at a time and in a way that helps the resolver succeed. For some people, that's instantly on the stroke of midnight of a new year. For me, it's any time I've reflected on the issue and need to take action on my widsom/knowledge/intention.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2008-01-02 11:15 pm (UTC)
That is a good way of approaching it.
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[User Picture]From: daemonnoire
2008-01-02 10:21 pm (UTC)
Part of mine starts tomorrow, since I need to go to the store tonight to buy the item which will help me keep it (diet journal). Part of it I started last week, since I was awake anyways (exercise). But generally, if you're going to have a new year's resolution, you should start it on a day that's reasonably comfortable for you. So long as you pick your day, and stick with it.

Which reminds me... I still owe you a spaghetti sauce recipe.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2008-01-02 11:16 pm (UTC)
Yes, you do!

I actually started a bit early myself this year, what with taking the games off my computer before the 31st.
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[User Picture]From: kisekinotenshi
2008-01-02 10:31 pm (UTC)
I don't make resolutions, because I know they just stress me out and put a lot of pressure on me. I much prefer to make a list of things that I want to do in the upcoming year, and compare it to the list of things that didn't happen in the previous year that I had wanted to happen. As long as the first list is longer than the second list, then I feel like I'm doing okay.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2008-01-02 11:17 pm (UTC)
I'm trying to make more realistic resolutions now, for those same reasons. I like your list idea, though.
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[User Picture]From: kisekinotenshi
2008-01-02 11:29 pm (UTC)
I don't really make any effort to keep it realistic when I make my list, but I think that's partly because the things I do in any normal year keep getting less realistic as I go. XD Considering my career goal is to be an opera singer, my idea of realistic is a bit skewed compared to most people my age.

But yeah, I was feeling a little sad last week until I made my list and realized that not only did I learn and perform a very difficult opera role, I also traveled to Germany and prepared an hour recital, including several quite difficult pieces, in five different languages, just this year. So I felt a lot better about myself then. XD

I also think it helps that some of the things on my list this year have been in the works for a couple weeks already, so the burden lightened in that respect as well.

Edited at 2008-01-02 11:35 pm (UTC)
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2008-01-03 12:09 am (UTC)
You did indeed have a very accomplished year. That's awesome. And a good way to feel better about yourself.
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[User Picture]From: pinwiz
2008-01-02 11:17 pm (UTC)
I don't have to worry about that since I don't focus on individual resolutions. I choose a theme for the year, and let that guide me. Ideally, it should be a song lyric...

Since I'm trying to be more bold, how about "Let's Get Loud"?
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2008-01-02 11:22 pm (UTC)
That's an approach I've never heard of before. Interesting!
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[User Picture]From: weirman
2008-01-03 01:00 am (UTC)
I ended up voting for the last option whereas I think that Resolutions are a stupid waste of time. But before I saw that option, I was going to vote for January 2nd unless it falls on a Friday or weekend. Because really, people should be allowed to stretch out the holidays as long as they can get away with.
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[User Picture]From: scarfman
2008-01-03 03:00 am (UTC)

I've given up making resolutions. Instead I indulge the superstition that what you do January 1 is what you'll do all year.

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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2008-01-03 01:34 pm (UTC)
Wow, I'm glad I don't have that superstition or my year would be "sleep most of the day, play Rock Band and go out drinking." I would be broke and homeless within 3 months! ;-)
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[User Picture]From: mazlynn
2008-01-03 02:42 pm (UTC)
I think you should do whatever works for you. For most people, that means the first is going to be a break day. Or possibly a day to start easing into new habits. One of my relatives decided for some reason to start her new diet Christmas Eve, which just seems to be demanding failure. I stayed on my diet plan over the holidays, but in a more relaxed form - general guidelines were still followed, but I didn't stress if I wasn't able to get a given days exercise in or had an extra dessert while traveling. Since I'm still traveling this week, my exercise routines will be fully re-established once my daily routines are as well, which probably means next Monday.

Of course, I also think goals or resolutions work best if they're not black and white - "I'm going to cut back on caffeine", not "I'm not going to drink any". A goal that allows a little slack gives you permission to get back to it if you slip up once in a while, while a "I'll never/always" goal means that if you mess up once, you tend to see the goal as broken and it's harder to get back to it.

That's how things have worked for me, at any rate. Others may have better luck with cold turkey resolutions.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2008-01-03 03:04 pm (UTC)
I think your more realistic approach has a higher chance of success.
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[User Picture]From: nuala
2008-01-04 01:45 pm (UTC)
That's very similar to my approach. I will walk a little more each week rather than "I RESOLVE TO LOSE WEIGHT!!!" It's being sensible and realistic. :D
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[User Picture]From: nuala
2008-01-04 01:25 pm (UTC)
Despite being the idealistic dreamy daft & silly sort, I am alarmingly sensible sometimes. I'm very ok with starting on the 3rd. Probably because I know my hangover will last throughout the 2nd. :D

I don't know how fond of new years resolutions I am. I guess not very, as they just seem to add an extra layer of guilt that is just one more negative thing which I must endure.

Boosucks to that.

Instead, I shall informally declare a "sensible desire" or 2 (ex get back to exercising regularly but not obsessively, do well in the last of my courses, etc), perhaps make a handful of frivolous declarations (ex watch more movies! enjoy life more!), but I no longer feel the need to make RESOLUTIONS. They feel far too daunting and a bit too final. For example: resolving to lose 50 pounds and then being disappointed when I don't quite manage it by February, despite the fact that of course it's impossible. I'd much rather decide to start walking that extra mile around the block a few days a week (and not beat myself up if I only make it 2 days instead of 4 to start with) than resolve to do my head in by obsessing over resolutions. It's perhaps pedantic, but it works for me, and at the end of the day, I think that's what counts. :-)

Edited at 2008-01-04 01:38 pm (UTC)
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2008-01-04 02:30 pm (UTC)
I agree, which is why my resolution - giving up solitaire - was one small, concrete thing from which I believe other good things will arise: more time= more exercise/quilting/reading. But I didn't declare "I will work out 6x per week" because I know that stuff intervenes and failure is inevitable.
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[User Picture]From: gythiawulfie
2008-01-04 03:51 pm (UTC)

Mind you

Even though I think NYR's are a waste of time, I did make one. Just to walk more.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2008-01-04 05:28 pm (UTC)

Re: Mind you

I'm firmly behind reasonable resolution-making.
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