Probably "OMG, shit, that's so sad," a condolence note to Ferrett, and several days of re-reading your stuff, probably an LJ post; when a musician whom I knew only slightly IRL (I'm almost 100% certain she didn't know my name, she may have recognized my face as "That woman who does PEERS" or "I think she's one of ____'s friends.), I posted informing those who might not have heard and did a bit of an elegy.
For several months, I didn't exactly tear up when I heard "Solsbury Hill," the last song most of us ever heard her sing, but I felt a bit of a sting at my eyes. I don't know offhand what would remind me of you, but I'm sure I'd get that sting.
That really depends upon when this hypothetical transition to ex-lawyer takes place. I mean, lolcats are bound to jump the shark sooner or later, right?
It ain't necessarily so, IMO. Not all internet people are created equal. Everybody's got some of those vague online acquaintances, from their groups, from their haunts, from their fandoms (shippers that pass in the night), and yours would absolutely respond that way - but that's only one possible degree of interaction. I know that if the chat/email/LJ/whatever interactions are enjoyable and solid enough, I tend to see them as just being the initial steps of a development of friendship that will grow to the point of meeting. I wouldn't meet everyone I "meet," and I can't meet everyone that I would, but I know who I would, if all things were possible.
I internet-know Ferrett better than I do you, but we've had a bit of fun here, I'd say, and I see no reason why that won't continue so long as you're animate. Right this minute, I'd take a reasonable opportunity to meet him, and I'd be pretty interested in you, too, enough that if you'd both be there I'd be more likely to do it; if you get over your chat-chicken status (BAWK!) I feel pretty confident that I'd get more invested pretty quickly.
If you die before that maybe-meetup ever happens, I'll think, "Dang, that's one more person I'll never meet." Then I'd get into the internet-friend version of supporting the bereaved.
Peppy topic, lady. It led me to dig this
up (I was looking for how to spell "kakked" - which I never did find) - good times.
In a combination of "I've been reading theferrett for far longer" and "The dead can look after themselves" I strongly suspect that I'd mostly be worrying about his state of mind. Probably for a fair few weeks.
When I first got on LJ at the end of 2005, I went poking around to see who else I knew was here, and discovered that kielle, who had an indirect but significant influence on the Usenet fanfiction writing career I had before I signed up with LJ, had recently died of sudden early onset of colon cancer. I still haven't decided how I feel about that, or what I think I ought to feel. I've no idea how I'd feel to learn of the passing of someone whose journal I've actually left comments in.
2009-03-09 11:25 am (UTC)
"Because I knew you, I have been changed for good."
I think I'd be more than a bit sad. You've always been there to provide me kind but firm guidance, telling me the things I need to hear precisely when I need to hear them. I suppose it sounds corny, but it makes me smile knowing that you're there in the background looking out for me. And it would break my heart to know that you were no longer around, or that I'd never be able to adequately thank you for the difference you've made in my life.
Okay, don't want to talk about this anymore...
Well, there would be sadness for such a loss on this world. But then I'd smile knowing you were in a better place.
I'd prefer not to think about it.
Oh gosh, I'd be really sad. You're my friend. Of course, I can't predict my entire reaction without knowing the manner of your death. I mean, if you were gunned down by police as you carried out a random killing spree in a Church, I'd be more shocked than if you just got run over by a bus, or something.
Shock, sad, utter grief. And then I'd have to drag B and Jan to hole up with Ferrett for a while until he's functional again.
So, not allowed. Not allowed at all, until your rightful time at 105. Ok? Ok. Glad we understand eachother.
Yes, but you rather more than 'net-know me, dear.
Your prediction is probably close to accurate.
2009-03-09 01:31 pm (UTC)
Er, I can't tell you the answer to that, and I hope I don't have. I can tell you that The Fucking Bluebird of Goddamn Happiness would take on a whole new meaning for me.
2009-03-09 01:57 pm (UTC)
Actually... I'd be more than sad - I'd be pissed at myself for never having actually gotten to your realspace to buy you the drinks I'm always promising and to give you the dozens of hugs I owe you.
I do take some "internet only" friends' passing really hard. Mostly because they're people I've made an actual connection with. I pared down my FL to only those last Fall (in one fell swoop!)
Even tho I've been reading Ferrett longer, I feel like I know you better - and so it would be one of those Anger/Loss/Sadness reactions.
But no, no lolcats - hate the things actually. Ben Huh was here last weekend for WordCamp and I politely stayed out of the session b/c I'm "she who thinks lolcats are the ultimate symbol of what is wrong with the world" and might've said something horribly rude.
Okay - see that last paragraph? I'm already in denial that you could ever die before I see you... so there.
i'm a weirdo. i *have* had internet friends go missing and find out later that they passed. it tore me up for months. i still cant think of those people without tearing up, and its been over 2 years for some of them. two of them i still have on my f-list, although i recently stopped expecting them to post. (literally)
sug's been gone since 2001, and i still kinda expect to see her sign on in the am to "have coffee" with me while she waits for the bus to come get her son. he'll be a junior in high school now.
so yeah. i'd miss you, and wonder how the ferret is holding up, and your other extended family. and i'd pray for you and for them (such prayers a pagan prays anyhow.).