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Sometimes you just gotta get down and dirty [May. 15th, 2009|01:44 pm]
Zoethe
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I have an appalling thing to confess.

As of last night, Ferrett and I hadn't had sex for an entire week.

It's been busy and crazy, and after a long week of late nights and a thwarted attempt to go to bed early last night, I made a command decision that we *were* staying in bed late to snuggle and make love.

There was snuggling. There was conversation. There was an important phone call, which was cut short by an interruption on the other end. So there was waiting. And there was talking and getting increasingly silly. So by the time the second phone call was dealt with, there was No Mood.

We both tried. We both failed. After about 45 minutes of abortive attempts, there was a rolling over that managed to create a funny balloon noise. We both sighed, and Ferrett suggested we make an appointment for 1pm.

"Okay," I said, "but there will be no talking. 1pm gets here, we get in the bed and fuck."

And it worked!!!
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[User Picture]From: aiela
2009-05-15 06:23 pm (UTC)
The "getting silly" has 'ruined' more attempts at lovemaking in my house than I can count, but it's just too precious, sometimes.

We have a similar appointment for later today. (damn work schedules rarely meshing) I hope it goes as well as yours did :)
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[User Picture]From: autographedcat
2009-05-15 06:30 pm (UTC)
Getting silly ruins it? I've always seen it as a feature. :)
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2009-05-15 11:55 pm (UTC)
Sorry; this is us.
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[User Picture]From: gravityslave
2009-05-15 06:24 pm (UTC)
Oh, man. Same story at this house this past week. The dry spell stops here! This far and no further!
Thanks for the inspiration. lol
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2009-05-15 11:56 pm (UTC)
good luck to you, too!
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[User Picture]From: sacramentalist
2009-05-15 06:26 pm (UTC)
It's business time...
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[User Picture]From: autographedcat
2009-05-15 06:32 pm (UTC)
Sorting out the recycling isn't part of the foreplay, but it's still important.
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[User Picture]From: autographedcat
2009-05-15 06:30 pm (UTC)
Recently, I went through a three month period where I was working a weird series of graveyard shifts, which mean that I was up until odd hours and slept most of the afternoon. From one thing to the other, we managed to go several days where schedules and moods just didn't line up.

At one point, I left a note on kitanzi's desk which read "If I am asleep when you get home, wake me up and fuck me."

Oh, that was good. :)
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2009-05-15 11:57 pm (UTC)
Yum! I bet it was awesome!
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[User Picture]From: conscience
2009-05-15 06:36 pm (UTC)
Yay for gettin' laid! LOL!

Yeah, we have our silly get in the way too...you are all set in the mood, then tummy raspberries start and the giggles commence...oh, fun but not right for a good makeout session.

Still...Good Times.

But getting laid is stellar :p

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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2009-05-15 11:59 pm (UTC)
It's all part of the package, but there comes a time to get down to business.
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[User Picture]From: phillipalden
2009-05-15 06:40 pm (UTC)
Good for you for keeping the erotic alive in your relationship. From my admittedly limited perspective, I've long suspected that lack of sex in long-term relationships is a factor when the relationship is in trouble.

In my experience, men want sex. And that rarely changes over time. But in some relationships the sex goes away for one reason or another, leaving the man wanting something he thought he'd always get to share with his wife/partner.

For the most part, this is pure speculation. I have no data to back this up.
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[User Picture]From: hartley
2009-05-15 07:45 pm (UTC)
I have some. My GF is currently in law school, and also works full-time.

So our sex life has become, at times, nonexistant.

And those times have been incredibly stressful.
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[User Picture]From: dylia
2009-05-15 07:50 pm (UTC)
Oh, it isn't just the men that need it, sweetie!
There's a very good reason Hysteria Machines were invented. ;-}

Whenever there's a lack of physical intimacy--whether by the pair drifting apart, medical limitations, etc.--their relationship is going to suffer.
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[User Picture]From: dylia
2009-05-15 06:44 pm (UTC)

Hooray For Good Sex!

For us, the silly usually leads to wrestling & grappling which I really have fun with.
The winner is determined by submission of the other & gets to pick positions & such.
Kind of the Simba/Nala "Pinned ya!" thing from the Lion King.

Scheduling has been hard for us too lately.
C's a teacher & is very often too exhausted through the week to do much.
We've been making up for it on the weekends, though. ;-)
I'm REALLY looking forward to Summer Vacation!
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[User Picture]From: theferrett
2009-05-15 06:48 pm (UTC)

Re: Hooray For Good Sex!

In this case, I was very very dominant. But it kinda worked out.
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[User Picture]From: trianakvetch
2009-05-15 08:57 pm (UTC)
I was sick all last week, now Kyle is sick...so yeah, getting a little antsy over here. I might have to demand that as soon as he's feeling better, there must be sex.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2009-05-16 12:08 am (UTC)
Ferrett gets horny when he's sick, so that is rarely a problem here!
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[User Picture]From: ccr1138
2009-05-15 10:18 pm (UTC)
You poor things. I only get sex (with somebody besides myself) four or five times a year. Now THAT's appalling.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2009-05-16 12:10 am (UTC)
That *is* appalling. I'm sorry!
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[User Picture]From: candiedheart
2009-05-15 10:46 pm (UTC)
Sometimes you just need to say you need it!
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2009-05-16 12:11 am (UTC)
We have some role reversal here. I'm the one who's likely to point at the bed and say, "get in" and he's the one likely to say, "But...can't we cuddle???"

;-)
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[User Picture]From: radiantsun
2009-05-16 01:09 am (UTC)
What if you aren't in the mood at 1? Do it anyway?

How do you get yourself in the mood if you're not feeling it?
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2009-05-16 02:16 am (UTC)
Knowing you have an appointment is helpful for getting in the mood. And, hey, if you aren't immediately feeling it, some "feeling" will get you there! ;-)
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