The "getting silly" has 'ruined' more attempts at lovemaking in my house than I can count, but it's just too precious, sometimes.
We have a similar appointment for later today. (damn work schedules rarely meshing) I hope it goes as well as yours did :)
Getting silly ruins it? I've always seen it as a feature. :)
Oh, man. Same story at this house this past week. The dry spell stops here! This far and no further!
Thanks for the inspiration. lol
Sorting out the recycling isn't part of the foreplay, but it's still important.
Recently, I went through a three month period where I was working a weird series of graveyard shifts, which mean that I was up until odd hours and slept most of the afternoon. From one thing to the other, we managed to go several days where schedules and moods just didn't line up.
At one point, I left a note on kitanzi
's desk which read "If I am asleep when you get home, wake me up and fuck me."
Oh, that was good. :)
Yum! I bet it was awesome!
Yay for gettin' laid! LOL!
Yeah, we have our silly get in the way too...you are all set in the mood, then tummy raspberries start and the giggles commence...oh, fun but not right for a good makeout session.
But getting laid is stellar :p
It's all part of the package, but there comes a time to get down to business.
Good for you for keeping the erotic alive in your relationship. From my admittedly limited perspective, I've long suspected that lack of sex in long-term relationships is a factor when the relationship is in trouble.
In my experience, men want sex. And that rarely changes over time. But in some relationships the sex goes away for one reason or another, leaving the man wanting something he thought he'd always get to share with his wife/partner.
For the most part, this is pure speculation. I have no data to back this up.
I have some. My GF is currently in law school, and also works full-time.
So our sex life has become, at times, nonexistant.
And those times have been incredibly stressful.
Oh, it isn't just the men that need it, sweetie!
There's a very good reason Hysteria Machines were invented. ;-}
Whenever there's a lack of physical intimacy--whether by the pair drifting apart, medical limitations, etc.--their relationship is going to suffer.
2009-05-15 06:44 pm (UTC)
Hooray For Good Sex!
For us, the silly usually leads to wrestling & grappling which I really have fun with.
The winner is determined by submission of the other & gets to pick positions & such.
Kind of the Simba/Nala "Pinned ya!" thing from the Lion King.
Scheduling has been hard for us too lately.
C's a teacher & is very often too exhausted through the week to do much.
We've been making up for it on the weekends, though. ;-)
I'm REALLY looking forward to Summer Vacation!
2009-05-15 06:48 pm (UTC)
Re: Hooray For Good Sex!
In this case, I was very very dominant. But it kinda worked out.
I was sick all last week, now Kyle is sick...so yeah, getting a little antsy over here. I might have to demand that as soon as he's feeling better, there must be sex.
Ferrett gets horny when he's sick, so that is rarely a problem here!
You poor things. I only get sex (with somebody besides myself) four or five times a year. Now THAT's appalling.
That *is* appalling. I'm sorry!
Sometimes you just need to say you need it!
We have some role reversal here. I'm the one who's likely to point at the bed and say, "get in" and he's the one likely to say, "But...can't we cuddle???"
What if you aren't in the mood at 1? Do it anyway?
How do you get yourself in the mood if you're not feeling it?
Knowing you have an appointment is helpful for getting in the mood. And, hey, if you aren't immediately feeling it, some "feeling" will get you there! ;-)