Thanks; if no one comes up with a local recommendation I will definitely be trying that. I worry that people get themselves on the list because they are willing to tolerate such things and it's a way of getting more patients through the door. I know at least one person who went to a "alt friendly" counselor and spent all her time either educating the person or resisting heteronormative advice.
I'm sure decent ones are out there.
My shrink is super kink/alt lifestyles friendly.
Hell she's given me reading assignments from Leopold von Sacher-Masoch and de Sade.
You have the advantage of living in France rather than the Midwest. ;-)
But, yes, I will pursue this.
You might want to ask potential shrinks if they are Lacanian because that philosophy is particularly kink friendly.
Also google on the kink aware professionals list and the bisexuality aware professionals directory.
Failing that... Contact the local LGBT, poly, and/or kinky orgs for recommendations. You didn't say which alternative sexuality you were wanting the professional to be knowledgeable in, but there is often overlap among the groups, at least in open mindedness. Get a few names and interview them over the phone as to their level of knowledge and tolerance wrt the given sexual preference.
I want someone who can look at "pagan, bisexual, and polyamorous" and not regard those as things that need treatment. Contacting the local LGBTQ group is a good idea. Thanks.
I'm definitely bookmarking that for reference. Thanks!
I think that a psychoanalyst would think that the pagan part would be the one that would need treatment. Most psychologist are atheist or at least that is what I get from my psych classes. Honestly I flirt with the idea of getting into psychology because I've been told that I'm a good listener. And I think that I'd be good at dealing with kinky people and not judging them. I also think that anyone who has studied pychology would realize that bisexuality is probably pretty common. Even if its just latent in most people.
However I do think that for some people( not yourself) their life styles might cause them problems.
I would also say that a lot of psych professions would most likely be the kinkiest of people. But then again I don't know since I've never visited a counselor.
Anyway good luck finding what you are looking for. And I'm sending good vibes your way.
Having known at least one person who spent therapy time defending the happy patrts of her life against traditional values, I am skittish. And thanks.
Marty Coen, LISW. She's mine, and she's fabulous.
Marty Coen Psychotherapy Assoc
12429 Cedar Rd Ste 2
Cleveland, OH 44106
Thank you! I will call her.
Yeah, no one listed within 100 miles. Though I may try calling the Columbus one and see if they can refer.
2011-05-16 04:20 pm (UTC)
Re: Maybe I just lucked out, but just in case...
Wow, sounds awesome. I hope I'm as fortunate!
I had to say something. I'm aghast. I've got nurses, social workers, educators - and me - in the family, and this is something we all knew about, took in stride and so on. Like, in the seventies? I know, I know, California born and bred, but holy merde. COME ON.
That said - the Feelinggood.com website referral page points to the Beck Institute, and drilling down? I find:
Edwin R. Shirley Ph.D.
University Hospitals of Cleveland
Mood Disorder Program
11400 Euclid Avenue, Suite 200
This is the cognitive approach that I favor over just about everything else, because it works for me. Mileage may vary with everyone else, yadda ya.
But I want to know if you run into issues - because Mamma may just go smack a bitch if you do.
It's pretty bad out here. But I am getting a couple leads. Thanks!
Thanks; I expect it to be challenging, to say the least....
Not sure if this will help but.... my therapist wasn't super familiar with alt lifestyles but I spent our first meeting interviewing her about her attitude and knowledge. I generally do this with health professionals.
It can be a way or weeding out the ones who not only don't but *won't* get it.
I am shooting for the ideal first, and then will work on the possible. Thanks! ;-)
I was going to suggest the Kink Aware Professionals link, but I see that it's already been covered. So, I will just tell you that I love you.
Thank you, dear. It's much appreciated.
No recommendations here, but definitely *hugs*
Dr Robert Chapman in Lakewood (Saturdays a few hours in Cleveland Heights). 216-228-3500
He is a psychologist. If he is not what you are looking for, he has been pretty good about finding others. I see him, and think he's great. A friend wanted a female who was experienced with certain tihngs, and he found someone outside of his practice that she has been happy with.
I don't have any helpful or useful information, but I must say, what are they teaching these people in the schools? Don't they know that people seeking therapy aren't likely to have enough spare spoons to argue over what isn't their problem?
I hope the useful information you have gotten will lead to an acceptable person who helps you.
I have phone calls out and am keeping my fingers crossed. And the monogamy/heteronormativity model is very frustrating.
Yeah. "So then I went to the supermarket, and it's not because we're polyamorous, and bought some lettuce for a salad."
I'm tired just thinking about it.