2011-09-06 04:14 pm (UTC)
I've always found that one of the best things in life to be is a ex-Catholic. And that's speaking as someone who's seen quite a bit of the Christian spectrum.
It gives you a proper appreciation for rituals and a better outlook on life than being Protestant. Contrary to Protestants who suffer theirs, they celebrate their faith. Makes you a happier person.
And I don't think there's anything wrong with being a tourist, as long as you acknowledge that you are. It's only appropriation if you start acting like what you're doing is the real deal. That's the disrespectful part as afar as I'm concerned.
Although I'm a Buddhist, I've been to some pretty joyful Protestant services (with dancing and gospel choirs and everybody participating in the sermon vocally).
Now the people of the Protestant church I grew up in definitely earned their name as "God's frozen people."
I'm a practicing Catholic and I think there is a definite line between appropriating someone else's culture and appreciating an experience becasue of what it brings you. You're not professing to believe something that you are not, you aren't doing it for show or to rebel against "the man". You aren't going just to cause a disruption or to mock or for any nefarious purposes.
It's something that brings you a warm fuzzy feeling. Go, enjoy the warm fuzzy. It doesn't matter whether you do it for a few months or it becomes a life long habit; if it feeds our inner self it's all good.
(Actually what I think is an act of cultural appropriation that grates me are people who wear crucifixes as a fashion statement. It's a sacred symbol and we generally wouldn't do it with sacred symbols of other faiths. But that's just my kvetch)
I certainly would be respectful. Being divorced and remarried without benefit of an annulment, I am actually excommunicated from the church, so I wouldn't partake of the sacraments.
And it's not nefarious, but I can't decide if it feels honest to be there when I don't believe. Still, it definitely touches me in some way.
2011-09-06 04:19 pm (UTC)
"Some of the Hymns That They Sing are Nice, but the Lyrics are Dodgy"
It sounds more like nostalgia than appropriation to me.
In case you haven't heard it, "White Wine in the Sun" by Tim Minchin pretty much exactly sums up my feelings on the matter:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fCNvZqpa-7Q
I often miss the feeling of community associated with going to church.
Every once in a while I get a serious yearning for a potluck lunch full of chicken & dumplings, corn pudding, watermelon, etc.
I miss sitting between my grandparents--both gone now--listening to my gran's flawless operatic soprano, & watching her hold court during the annual Apple Butter Cook.
(((And now I'm crying...Stupid hormones)))
I do not, however, miss the judgmental attitude, the willful ignorance, the partitioners' pageantry or the hypocrisy of the whole thing.
2011-09-06 06:38 pm (UTC)
"Some of the Hymns That They Sing are Nice, but the Lyrics are Dodgy"
Wow. I've never heard him before, but that song made me cry - I'm still crying, in fact.
I get some of the community with my Goddess Temple, but we just don't have the sheer numbers and weight of traditions yet. And those childhood associations aren't there. I do miss that. I think you are right about nostalgia.
I know so much what you're talking about. For years after my beliefs had pretty much crystallized around Buddhism, I kept going to the Episcopal church, happily mouthing a creed I didn't believe a word of--just because it was the ritual I'd followed since childhood. I don't think it's appropriation--following the rituals is one aspect of culture and keeping the beliefs they express is another aspect of culture.
Happily for me and a good assortment of other Episcopalians and Catholics, it turns out that it doesn't have to be that particular ritual, after all--I eventually found rituals that fit with my beliefs, and now they're the familiar ones. But I don't believe every single tenet of this religion any more than I did Christianity. I suspect everyone is a heretic in her heart...
So what variety of Buddhism? (The whole tenet thing... There are plenty of things believed by some buddhists somewhere that I'm totally not into. I don't think I've found any in the order I'm a member of - and I'm kind of a bitch, and was at first a little embarrassed to be a member of a buddhist order - long story - so I really did try. Mostly, they're not really big on tenets.)
My girlfriend told me the same thing a couple of years ago, when she was still unsure if she identified as a Catholic: regardless of her crisis of faith, she found the rituals and pageantry of the church she belonged to extremely comforting.
If it gives some measure of comfort, I'd say go for it. The only thing that I noticed and you may find as well, is that the things that bothered her about the church became amplified to her. When the week's sermon was particularly conservative, or the hymns were bad one week (and good lord are there some stinkers), or what have you, it was more difficult to ignore.
I'm inclined to think the same thing will happen to you, but that's because I've only the one annecdote to go on. The cognitive dissonance of going to a place of worship when you don't believe tends to be hard on smart, honest people.
Cognitive dissonance is a good way of putting it. I stayed in the church for the community when we were in Fairbanks, because we had such a great community. I will definitely be doing some parish shopping here if I start going back.
This may or may not be the answer to your question or the answer to your dilemma, but qtrhorserider and I satisfy our weekly lapsed-Catholic craving for ritual without pretense of Catholicism at Methodist services.
I may have to check that out. My problem is being very non-Christian. We tried going to the Unity church once and it was too silly for words.
Have you checked out the Episcopal churches? My experience of them* was that they kept most of the cool stuff from catholocism, while inserting a lot more room for individual autonomy and progressive politics. (Though I know some flamingly liberal kinky polyamorous Catholics, so.**) And it's hard to imagine anyone getting upset about people doing cultural appropriate from Episcolians. How could you keep a straight face? Anyhow, they want people to be there, even if you aren't totally committed. It's kind of part of the game plan, y'know.
[This comment brought to you by an agnostic Chan Buddhist.]
* Based, I should add, on attending for a year or two when a close friend was considering that she might have a vocation.
** The line "The communion line at the 5pm contemplative mass at St. Joe's is one of the best places to pick up hot goth chicks..."
The Episcopal church did keep some of the cool stuff like the swinging braziers of myrrh, but for sheer awe they are too staid to compete. (based on my experience, which was about a visit a month while growing up -- my family did a lot of Christian church-hopping. Sadly they would never tell me much about or let me go see the one Unitarian church in town...)
So what it is that I like about the Catholic church is the incense and the music and the liturgy.
The Catholics (well, they were just generic Christians back) spent centuries being persecuted, persecuting, and honing to perfection methods of conversion. You throw on the glitzy circus act but infuse it with interesting smells and altars of gold and glazed windows and show the hoi-polloi "see how cool this faith is?". Even for those who don't want to convert they know how to
throw a good party pull out the rites and rituals that awe and impress. They've been around for long enough to know exactly what to do.
Technically, the Church of England is an option (Episcopalian, round these parts). Depending on the church they still do the smells and bells, mass and all, and depending on the church they're rather more liberal minded; either way, definitely no pope to worry about.
(though my understanding is that smells and bells and conservatism do tend to go together)
If I bought into the Jesus thing, that would be where I'd head. As it is, though, that feels even more intrusive and appropriative than tourist trips to Catholic mass.
I don't have any answers or even suggestions, just an "I know what you mean" about that sense of misgiving that comes from being there.
I wasn't really expecting anyone to provide me with the perfect answer, just rambling about the stuff in my head. Good to know I'm not alone, though.
Let me toss out the website to my slice of fun: http://www.ucc.org
(They'll tell you anything you ever wanted to know.)
My bunch is currently doing a progressive theology series, and if I'm not imagining things, the whole 'Christ as a person vs. Christ as a concept' thing is probably on the table for discussion. We also do great music and liturgy - incense optional - but the whole 'who can come in here and who we don't allow' is absent.
For me, this is far more of a meditation of the ideas presented, either to prove or not is beside the point. We're not looking up to a guy wearing robes in the clouds - we're looking to where the materials fits in to life as we know it, to make us the people we want to be. No matter who we are.
(I always found Mass to be something of an aerobic workout, to be honest. There was always something you needed to be doing. Sit, stand, bow, kneel...repeat. And rigid? Yikes.)
You want the warm and fuzzy without the guilt, check out a UCC near you. Let me know how it goes?
Mass is great for those of us with ADHD because we get to move around a lot!
There's a UCC down the street from us. Maybe I will check it out. Thanks.
My father once told me that what he enjoyed about the church was the gentle ritual and the sort of people he met there. To be fair, the fact that my mother was quite a believer was probably also an influencing factor in his attendance.
I have to say, I agree with him at least somewhat. I don't like it enough to attend regularly, but when I find myself in a church, despite the fact I'm an agnostic who defaults to atheism, it is quietly reassuring.
And I pretty much always enjoy chatting with Church of England priests. They tend to combine intelligence, interesting coversation, usually some level of gentleness and laid back-ness about things, all of which combine into nice people to be around.
I agree with your dad, too. And I always like Jesuits for the same reasons you mention about C of E priests.
I was raised in the Catholic Church, although it was Palo Alto, CA Catholic Church, which is about as liberal as the church could get. I never went to confession and I was never "confirmed."
I abandoned the Catholic Church at age 13 when my parents stopped making me go.
Eventually, after years of spiritual seeking and reading both spiritual books and holy texts, (like the Koran,) I finally settled on Taoism. It doesn't have the coolest music, but what Lao Tzu wrote makes sense to me.
I'm struggling with a crisis in faith at this point, but mostly been happy with my pagan practices. It just doesn't resonate on that childhood memory level.
If you're feeling uncertain about this, my own advice would be to check at the source if it's okay: ask the priest at the church you'd like to attend how he'd feel about it. I would guess, in a welcoming community, that they'd be more than happy to have you in the pews, though probably not participating in the sacraments.
Oh, would definitely not participate in the sacraments. But you make a good point.
Myself and a friend of mine were feeling somewhat of the same. She grew up pseudo-Catholic, and feels a longing for the getting-together of a Sunday in fellowship, even if she doesn't actually believe in the same god as them, while I grew up Orthodox Christian (the only people who could perhaps out-ritual the Catholics), and kinda miss the ritual. I've reconciled that I need just to get new ritual and flash in my life, instead of returning to the old.. and I'm not sure what she is going to do.
But as far as appropriating, one of the requirements, IMO, of appropriating is that you have to have the power to change the perception of things. Your presence, as long as you aren't disruptive, will have no effect upon the services and the way that the services are perceived, so I would say it is not appropriative.
An interesting definition of appropriation. It would seem to let most people off the hook, provided they aren't actually producing appropriative items for distribution to others. I mean, how would my having an altar with Bast, Coyote, Artemis, and Thor really change anyone else's perception of those faiths? Yet I think people would regard that as a tasteless appropriation. (I'm not trying to be confrontational, just trying to figure this out.)
Making my own is something I've done a bit, but it doesn't have that bone-deep sense that comes from a childhood association.