I don't really mind educating people about what I am, but at the same time, it does get tiring to answer the same questions over and over. And generally the person asking isn't really that sincere to begin with.
It's the presumption that kills me.
Sounds really irksome. Are you planning to say something to her?
Thank you for this.
But please tell me she didn't use the term, "cute little Latinos" in her teaching. If she did another little piece of my wizened soul just died.
And as for the "white, blonde, Southern woman" thing, that just reminds me how much The Help irked me.
Not only used it, repeated it at least three times. Using the "adorable puppy" voice.
Also, there are no adults with ADD.
I'm trapped with this woman until 4.
i would have gotten up and left. but that's me.
Alas, I paid $300 for this pleasure. And I need the CLE hours by the end of the month.
I dunno, the label du jour or term du jour for group x changes so often it's hard to keep up. You'd have to dedicate a large portion of your time to keep up with all the PC terms.
Maybe it's that I'm an entitled ogre or reactionary whatever... but my solution to the problem is to just treat everyone the same. 'Course I'm an asshole but at least I'm an equal opportunity asshole. I assume no one is better than, or less than, or worth anything different than myself to society as a whole. Specific instances of worth might be different but not as a class thing but a functional one (i.e. I would pay a person with a doctorate and experience more than one that is a high school dropout but that's not a reflection of their value as a human being but a reflection of their value for the skill-set they possess in a biz situation)
You're right about the "Cute Little Latino" comment though, anything that is a diminutive or places the subject in (by it's very language) a child like or inferior relationship is pretty insensitive.
The notional preferred terms may change more often than they should - but even then, it's not that often. And actual usage changes even more slowly - 'homosexual' is supposedly an inappropriate term now (according to some sources), but I've never seen an actual gay person objecting to it in any context.
Cute little Latinos? Really?
I mean, unless they were twelve-and-under, since when has it been appropriate to call anyone a cute little anything?
Though, ironically, this women is herself an excellent argument for asking your friends what's appropriate over consulting resources. :P Of course, the real flaw with "ask your friends" is that the need to ask may well be correlated with the lack of same.
I misquoted. "Cute little Latino workers" was the whole statement. So yeah, position of relative power plus diminutive.
Who the bleep is paying her? That's what I want to know.
Me. And all the other poor suckers in the room.
Take the class, get your CLE hours. Say something, because it is *everyone's* job to correct that kind of crap.
Then write to whatever board of something or another and complain. Because that kind of shit isn't helping anyone to become more sensitive, dammit.
Unfortunately, most racist/sexist/etc. people would see this as an excuse to stop trying to improve altogether and just continue to be racist/sexist/etc.
She certainly can make people feel smug and enlightened in comparison...
Please bear with errors.
Drat! I was hoping to error with bears.
If the bears can give consent, I will not judge your lifestyle choices.
Don't they have comment/evaluation forms for your CLE? While arguably it would be more powerful for you to correct this dingbat in front of the audience, correcting her on paper, in front of her employer, might have more long-term effect.
Yes, I will be filling out the form.
2011-09-21 05:16 pm (UTC)
Wow ... just WOW
I'm a questioner. Nobody ever has to answer. I like people.
However, I'm locked up on the "cute little Latinos" who used to be so pleased at her efforts to speak pidgin Spanish.
Where to start? mind blowing. And no, my Hispanic, Latino, and other limited English speaking employees do not have issues with my less than acceptable Spanish. They tease me then tell me the right way. However, it is NEVER expected that they should correct me. I go out of my way to cross the barrier. We've bonded to the point that I get to hear lovely stories of places lived prior, people gone, memories made. It has nothing to do with the language or race or even sex - we're just people sharing things.
geesh. Presume much does she? gads
I didn't know you are a lawyer. My partner specilizes in high-tech patent law, (he's also an engineer.)
It sounds like that CLE program should have been lead by a person of color.
Yes; I practice debtor side bankruptcy.
I wouldn't say that a white woman can't speak on the topic. It was only a portion of the whole Communications program.
Um, ok, but why do you mention that she's Southern? I get that she's clueless, but...
I second, and see my comment below. Being Southern does not enhance or take away from her racism--contextualizes it, a little, perhaps, but there are just a whole mire of assumptions tied in with that statement.
The South having its history, it's tempting to enhance someone Southern's racism by mentioning that origin in conjunction with them, but that's making an assumption that all people from X have the same views. On the flip side, it would be incredibly insulting to Southerners as a group to describe someone as "Southern, but not racist!" They are not some kind of monolith.