I'm glad he's a good guy and is there to help you out. It's okay to be fragile - things are changing and while they'll probably ultimately lead to goodness the change is still a major stress.
Good luck Gini.
(and I'm sorry about the lack of emails - things here have been a bit odd.)
Thanks, hon. And no worries on the emails. How are you doing?
Glad Ferrett took care of you. Hugs!
a husband you can actually CRY on is a keeper.
(I hear you on the fragile-embarrassing thing. It goes hand in hand with "I don't want to inconvenience anyone" for me. Bleah.)
You are working to change a lot of things in your life. Five things that you list here alone!
I can't juggle more than two or three new things at a time, so I am not surprised to hear you are feeling overwhelmed.
Be gentle to yourself and do try to ask for support and love and pets
whenbefore you need them.
here is a big (((((((HUG))))))), with a wipe-down towel and a bottle of water.
Go grab back onto the end of your rope and try climbing up again.
We're all here cheering you on.
Thanks so much. It is a lot, and I'm not really good at noticing my stress level until it's "over the top." The encouragement is much appreciated.
You've got a lot going on, of course it's hard. You are human, like everyone else. I'm glad that Ferrett could be there for you today.
I love you. You're inspiring. ::hug::
Thanks, dear. It's good to know you're there.
You're awesome in many ways, including letting yourself be a little fragile sometimes.
That's the nice thing about loved ones and friends, when we feel like the yoke they'll happily form the shell until we can do it ourselves.
It is wonderful to have that support.
The food blog is awesome, and made me want to make pretzels. While this doesn't necessarily mean you're an awesome person in and of itself, I think it's highly suggestive.
I'm sure you'll succeed in all the new things you're trying. :)
I'm glad you like the food blog. And thanks!
Even good stress is still stressful. *hugs*
Yup. Our bodies react to stress no matter what.
Yesterday must've just been a good day for bursting into tears, 'cause I was in a very similar boat.
Sorry you were having a hard day. Hugs.
Much as I enjoy the food blogging, I will endeavor to refrain from asking after updates under the circumstances.
Seriously, it just took me over three weeks to mail a package. Anyone who can get the volume of stuff you do done is barely comprehensible to me.
I do want to keep them up. I'm glad people like them.
And I can't tell you how long some packages sat here waiting to be mailed.
With all of the things you're doing at once, you're going to have tension buildup. Embarrassment is irrational. I recommend suppression, Alice in Wonderland style.
I think of stress as a cup being filled - when things are easy and good, there's just a little in the bottom, you have room for more, you can move the cup around with no worries. When you're running high, even something relatively small can be the thing that makes you spill, because the cup is just full all the time. Tears are a good quick way of pouring off some excess.
Things will ease up. You are ok. You're doing good things and you have a solid support structure. :)
That's a good way to look at it. Thanks.
I love you and think you're amazing.
If it helps at all, I've been feeling that way, too, lately.
Thanks, and hang in there.
2011-10-03 09:36 pm (UTC)
It's true, awesome partners are awesome.
It's interesting to learn one has more in common with people they admire/respect than they thought before. I've had many times like this, more over the past few years of unemployment than I care to recall. In a way it's comforting when you learn that your partner(s) may be more in tune with you and your needs than you are. At least one of you is watching out for you. Not that you're not looking out for you, but you're spread spectacularly thin these days and sometimes we are the first things moved off of our list of Important Things To Take Care Of. Not in a conscious way, just in a quietly, subtle way.
You are juggling many important to you projects. Don't forget that you are always project numero uno. Everything else is bunk and doesn't count if there is no you to enjoy them.
2011-10-04 01:56 am (UTC)
Re: It's true, awesome partners are awesome.
I'm very grateful for my wonderful partner, believe me. And I'm trying to be good to myself. It's easy to forget to do so at times, with this much going on.
Change is really really hard and it's brave that you're making these changes. Bravery does not preclude an occasional break down.
Thanks. It surprised me, but I'm working on accepting myself.
yes, be good to yourself. you dont *have* to be perfect all the time, and ferrett is a really good guy to recognise that you arent being *you* and ask about it.
he's paying attention. that's just excellent. pays attention, funny, loves you to pieces, keeps trying to be a good husband and partner, why that's a keeper in my eyes! *gentle hugs* bubblebaths are a good rebalancer, i've found. :)
I am very fond of baths! And I have the best hubby ever.
A long hard cry is good for you. Cleans out all kinds of things. So, however it came about, I see it as a helpful thing. Resilience and processing emotion and stress can go hand in hand.
I definitely felt calmer and better when it was over.
I'm truly glad you felt better when it was over... and hope you'll give yourself room to have a good cry now and then.
And even though I'm quoting a sitcom... "You know what it means when you have lots of balls in the air? It means you know how to juggle."
And boy do you. (And every juggler's going to have a bobble now and then... )
Thanks. It's a little scary, but I feel good about things.
Maybe you're pushing yourself a little too hard.
Probably. So I'm trying to back down a bit and be forgiving to myself.
Aww, we all get there sometimes though.
Nothing wrong with a good cry.