I felt really guilty, thinking I might have upset you with my message. Kept me awake for a long while, actually. But it's a scary thing and it's even more scary if you have no idea what to expect.
Love to you all.
Oh, gosh, not at all. It helped me maintain that smile and outward calm when I had to. Love you, dear.
Oh, Gini, what a relief! I've been checking every 20 minutes or so, all evening long. I couldn't imagine what might be happening. I lost my Henry quite suddenly at the age of 52. I was so hoping the same wasn't going to be your fate. Thank goodness he's okay!
He needs a teddy bear to hug when he coughs. The local heart hospital in Palm Beach Gardens actually provides one. They will want him to cough, and it hurts like hell. But it apparently helps to be hugging a teddy bear tightly.
Get some rest. Such an ordeal. You are strong. You'll be fine, and so will Ferrett.
My best thoughts to you both.
I will keep the teddy bear in mind. Thank you. Sorry for the worrisome delay. We went to dinner, then Erin and I took a much-needed walk.
The Plavix part had me worried. But today's surgeons know how to deal with such things. As you say, he's strong, he'll mend nicely. I had a lady friend who had a triple bypass at 53 and was up a week later, walking to the Federal Building near the hospital so she could call us toll-free on a government line. Ferrett's gonna have energy he never thought he'd ever have again. You'll have trouble keeping him down! So glad for you both.
Or a pillow - something to keep the incision area from jostling.
Hug hug hug. I wish there was a way I could "be there" for you.
Thank you for keeping us posted. Hugs for you both, and very glad to hear that he's on the other side of the surgery.
Glad to hear that he made it through OK. Rest, and you'll both be stronger in the morning.
Very glad he is coming through this well, and many hugs for the shock of his appearance.
Please don't feel like you have to keep us updated every second. While it's good to have news, your own well being comes before our having up-to-the minute news.
This! It is more important for you to spend time with him and Erin, as well as taking care of yourself, than keeping people updated.
Thank you for all you have shared during this stressful time. I'm very glad he came through and is now on the upswing. *hugs*
Agreed. You can quit now and rest and focus on you and Ferrett. We know he's out of the woods and the worst, so far, is over. Recovery will be suck ass for a bit and then it will be ok.
*hugs* I"m glad you have a strong support team there with you. take good care of yourselves.
I have nursed a lot of people recovering from bypass surgery, and the first few days are tough, but most people are up and about by day three. I'm sure he'll do just fine, and that he's in good hands.
Take care of yourself; it's okay to take some time just for you, to recharge. He's being looked after, and if you exhaust yourself, you won't be doing him any favours. That's advice I give to all the families of my patients, BTW.
When my daughter was 13 months old, she was hospitalized for a particularly horrible rotavirus. I spent the first two nights sleeping in the recliner next to her crib. The third day, the nurses basically ambushed me and killed me with kindness, telling me to GO HOME, eat a real meal, get some sleep, and they promised they'd take care of her. Leaving that night was the hardest thing I've ever done, but I felt so much better in the morning. I was very thankful they were able to convince me that it was okay to leave.
Thanks for all the updates. Thinking good thoughts for you and yours.
I have not commented 'til now for fear of not knowing what to say, but I have been thinking of you and him and your family, and wishing you the very best. He has all my love, and you, and those waiting, have all my care.
It feels like a platitude, god it feels like a platitude, but take care of yourself.
I will see if I can manage to paint my nails and have a picture waiting for when he feels up to it. <3
I am glad he is still with us.
i am so glad to hear it went well. been thinking of your family a lot today.
Thank you for keeping us updated regularly, I'm sure he'll be much better tomorrow.
Thanks for keeping us updated! And you are right he will be better tomorrow.
(Especially for Erin. From one daughter to another, you know.)
BIG HUGS for both of you!!! He's too stubborn to do anything but great, and today's heart surgeries are so much easier than they used to be.
That said...holy hell, is it big and scary, and I'm so sorry that you guys are going through this. Thank any and all gods he went to the hospital instead of being a boy and just sticking it out. Mine tried to stick heart issues out, and all that got him was an external defib, while we wait to see if his heart strengthens enough to avoid an internal one.
You are doing great. It's really hard.
I'll never forget the sight of my Dad with staples in his chest when I saw him after his first surgery. It was intense.
You are doing amazing, and so is Ferrett. I'm so proud of all of you, and SO happy he came through the surgery OK.
Yeah, seeing anybody after Major Surgery is scary. They're doped up to their hairline, they're connected to things that go 'ping'...
And then the next day they're having a chat with you over breakfast.
Glad to hear he came through fine. Take care of you.
...more machine than man...
I am so glad to hear this. Do keep us posted - and remember, you have to take care of YOURSELF first.
Sorry, I know it's a cliche but it's true.
*Hugs* Hang in there; it feels like forever, but he will be home, healing, and holding you soon.
This is such good news. I thought about you guys a lot yesterday. Thank you for the update.
Thanks for the update! My FIL had valves replaced TWICE and yes, they look pretty dreadfully fragile when they come out of surgery! The worst is over and he will undoubtedly look a LOT better today. I asked for prayers (without names, just "for a friend" on FB, so we called in a lot of extra good vibes from the universe!!) PLEASE make sure to nap and eat and take care of yourself. Soon enough he'll be home and you will have lots to do, so rest now while you can!!
Forgot to say; have him hold a small pillow to his chest when he coughs, it will help minimize the pain.
2013-01-16 03:38 pm (UTC)
Big Hugs and Healing Thoughts
*hug* I'm so glad it's gone so well. Heh, I know what you mean about needing to put your head down after such a hard time. I hope you can go and get some rest, too. You've earned it.
Thanks very much for this update. Hugs to you and very gentle hugs (cyber hugs are pretty gentle... ) to Ferrett. We're all thinking of all of you. Hang in there.
Thanks for the update.
I'll say a prayer.
Thank you for the update, but do NOT feel bad about how long it takes for you to update. What you're doing "on the ground" is the priority right now.
My post-surgical mantra: tomorrow will be better. Maybe just a little bit, but it builds. Let it take its time; it will get there.
When they put Mark, my husband's father in law on the ventinaltor, if you hadn't seen if before it is always a moment that rattles. There are tubes for tubes and ssssing machines, bleeps, bloorps. The beds never look right and neither do the people in them. I'd spent some time as a kid in the hospital, so I expected a few things.
But Shawn, his sister Kim and Shawn's mother weren't quiet ready to see him trussed up like that, and sedated. Kim cried, Shawn and I tried to keep it normal as we could. We talked about the ventilator and why he needed to be sedated, and then Shawn and i went right into talking to pop directly about how he looked better. How we were jealous he had a tube for food and it looked like delicious iced coffee. When their shock wore off, we just all agreed to treat him as if he were awake and doing fine, and it really helped.
And what I meant to say was--you're really helping. All the smiling and the touches. It's what he needed right now, but don't forget to sit down with your head between your knees whenever you need to. He's in a place that is taking care of him best they can. Don't forget to let those who love you, take care of you too.