Yeah, give it a chance. I do understand about that.
Sounds like you're gonna get a chance to kick butt!!Go for it!
I totally understand. Relatedly, you never, ever see a boxing trainer correct the form or give tips to a male boxer they don't personally train...but women? That's a different story. I usually dryly thank them and say, "I'll be sure to mention that to my trainer before my next match."
That kind of disrespect really pisses me off. Jackasses.
they're probably just trying to pick you up, not actually give you boxing tips lol
Works every time, too. I know the closest way to my heart (and/or pants) is to be told I'm doing something badly! ;-)
You didn't use proper grammar in your reply; you should've said "I know that..."
2014-03-07 08:58 pm (UTC)
Never attribute to malice what can be adequately explained by stupidity. Or in this case, distractedness, etc. I think you're wise to wait and see if it happens again. Although you would not be out of line to pull that person aside and just mention it, as in, "I don't know if you realized, but I was using that machine. Next time please ask."
It was the reason why I didn't make a deal of it at the time. I do thoughtless stuff, too.
You're kidding! Pastel-colored barbells? Seriously? That's almost actionable. What, are they supposed to match your outfit? That's pretty blatant. That trainer apparently represents a general attitude at your gym. I realize it's hard to be taken seriously when you're relatively new at the facility. I see now that the reason they didn't blow me off at mine was that I actually did work with one of their trainers for the first few months. Nobody was gonna mess with HIM, so they treated me with respect. Otherwise, I probably would have been ignored, too. As it is, I often feel invisible. And intimidated. Not fun.
I think it's useful to have such things around because weightlifting is already coded pretty seriously male. Pastel dumbbells (I've never seen barbells) make it clear that yes, this is something you can do. Not everyone needs the baby steps, but I very much do.
The ones at my gym are stored by weight, from smallest to heaviest. The light ones are just smaller. That's all the indication I need to know where to start. I find pastel colors kind of insulting, and I'm not even much of a feminist. To each his (in this case her) own, I guess. I'd rather see bright colors all over the place, but unisex. When I go to use one of the training machines, I see how many plates the previous user was able to lift. I nearly always have to adjust to a much lower number. But sometimes I can do more! That's kind of a kick.
You CAN do it. Start slowly and work your way up. You'll be amazed how quickly you can add more weight. It's one of the more inspiring forms of exercise, I think, because you improve nearly every time you go.
Or I don't go. Gyms are expensive and I don't know anything about weightlifting. It's not something one can just *do*, not if one is me. I'd like everything brightly colored, too, but it's scary enough as it is.
(context: there were Planet Fitness commercials on during Jeopardy and I looked up reviews to see if they're any good, and most of the reviews I saw were from weightlifters mocking the lazy fat people who don't lift weights because they want everything to be easy. Way too much judging going on when the gym seems to be geared toward people who hate gyms and need explicit help getting over it.)
Planet Fitness gets crap from "serious" lifters because they don't allow loud grunting and 'rhoidhead behavior. It's actually a pretty beginner-friendly environment.
Not all gyms are expensive. Mine is $20 a month, and that includes swimming pool.
The PF I go to is rather like that, yeah, though depending on what time/day I go, it can have a very different feel due to who's there. Weekday evenings it's stuffed to the gills with buff dudes doing free weights, and it gets a bit intimidating working out at those times. Fortunately, weekends and during the day tend to be a lot more female/non-buff balanced so I try to go then.
Oh, and it looks like barbells have weight disks that you add to the ends of the bar to make them heavier. From what I gather, dumbbells are a solid molded weight unit. You are right. Those are the ones at my gym that are racked by weight. They also have the barbells in a different area. zoethe
had it right, too.
It's not like they are racked for the use of women. They are just the lighter ones that are like something you'd pick up at Target. In fact, the trainer in question, who was training a much older man, had him using a pair of them for bent butterflies.
The gym has been really terrific and supportive. This is the only guy I've run into who has done anything like this. He's pretty new. It might just be him getting his "legs."
i think it's an absolutely reasonable thing to be irked about. the trainer disrespected you, and if YOU were using the machine, should have done something else with his client until YOU were done.
jackass. *sighs* i'm having a "not patient with people" day right here.
I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt. For now.
The paranoia, it's annoying, no? The not knowing, and wanting to give people the benefit of the doubt so you must doubt yourself instead but you are justified in your position of course even though you don't want to appear oversensitive and GODDAMMIT, I JUST WANTED TO WORK OUT NOT RATTLE AROUND IN MY HEAD.
When he approached the other guy, was the other guy using both cable stations either at the time or was between sets? If so, I can see why he would have asked the guy and didn't ask you.
The trainer at our club always asks if someone is done with equipment, regardless of gender and regardless of the fact that training sessions get priority there. What I usually encounter is a fellow gym goer taking weights or machines I am using without asking if I am done. These are the same clowns that don't wipe down machines when they are done.
No, that guy was just using the one side of the machine. Which is why I began to wonder if it was a respect toward women issue. But like I said, it might have just been a mistake. I will give him the benefit of the doubt for now.
I feel your pain. It's like when I used to work in the restaurants as a cook, and I'd have women tell me how to do my job...even butt-bumping me out of the way and taking over my shit. It was really insulting for someone who'd been in the business for 6 years.
what you should do, is next time you see this guy bench pressing, go start lifting one side of it so he loses balance, and say "oh sorry, I thought you were just using the middle"
I'm surprised by that, because the restaurant world is allegedly so male-dominated. But I guess whatever environ you are in, the long-term folk are likely to be disrespectful.
As amusing as that idea is, I wouldn't want to injure anyone!