I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. End of life issues are... well, they're hard. In a way that people who haven't lost someone don't quite grasp. I didn't until I lost someone very dear to me this summer. I can only imagine how it is when it's several someones.
FWIW, as a stranger on the internet, you have my support and well-wishes. I hope you know you're loved by many people.
Have a safe flight, and as pleasant a trip as you can under the circumstances.
See last sentence above. I'm sorry.
2014-10-17 03:20 pm (UTC)
May you find comfort and ease somehow.
Have a safe flight and as pleasant as possible visit.
I know where you are right now, and I send you prayers and good wishes. There was a time a few years ago when I was sure I was saying goodbye to my dad for the last time. His heart was failing, and he was cyanotic, had no energy, had given up. At the same time, my only sibling was battling a Hepatitis B infection and losing. I'd already lost my mom about 10 years before. I remember the despair, thinking I was soon to be an "orphan" and truly the last of my family.
BUT ... my brother got into a double-blind drug study that cured him, and my dad got a defibrillator implanted into his heart which gave him a new lease on life. They are both still with us, praise the Lord.
It may be that you'll have to say goodbye to your mom, but I am hoping for the same sort of miracle for her. Please keep us posted, and take good care of yourself!
I admire you for tying up your boots and taking those steps. And the fact that you write here, and accept comments and support from people tells me that you are wise enough to hold the hands that are offered along the way. Much love to you.
My prayers are with you. We lost my FIL, a sweet wonderful man, nearly 12 years ago, in the same sort of decline. He, too, reached a point at which he refused dialysis. There isn't much else to be said except that he is still warmly remembered and sorely missed. My thoughts and prayers are with you in this hard journey.
i am so very sorry. i have no real words, but you are there in my good thoughts.
Sweetie, I'm so sorry. I've lost a parent both ways and I honestly couldn't make a decision on what was easiest, although there was a significant age difference between the two, so I may have coped with one better than the other by virtue of being more than 2x as old the 2nd time.
In any event, it stinks and I'm sorry. Love you.
I'm sorry you're going through this :(
On one hand, you get to see her and be sure you say everything you need to say to her. On the other hand...what do you say?
When my grandpa died last year, we thought...well...sad he's gone, BUT now Grandma can have a break from the last decade of taking care of each and every one of his needs! We thought she'd have many years of well-deserved freedom. She was only 69. Nine months later, she died unexpectedly. She was never sick. She even went to work that day! But damn, i guess there's never any planning these things. It just feels crappy that she wasn't given the time we thought she was owed.
I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. I hope that your life gets easier soon.
It's so difficult when we see our parents as frail instead of invincible. My heart goes out to you for all you have lost this year. Sending you wishes of a 2015 that fills you with joy and rejuvenation.
sending all love and courage for whatever awaits.
I'm sorry. That sounds so incredibly hard.
Hugs, and know that I am thinking of you. :(
Sending hugs... The universe so needs to stop heaping loss upon you and your loved ones.
Oh, sweetie, not even more piled on you now. I'm so deeply sorry. I wish I could help, and if there's anything I can do, please, let me know.
I'm very sorry. I hope the trip is as peaceful as possible. Here's to a less grief filled 2015.
I'm so so sorry to hear of your troubles. Life has been throwing you far too many curve balls lately. I hope you have a good farewell with your mom. My thoughts are with you.
Oh ow. Hugs and caring to you. That sounds awful and hard. I hurt for your pain. I will be thinking of you, and I care that you make it through the slog.
There are no good reasons to go to Bismarck, and this one is worse than most. Sorry.
>>I don't look forward to marking 2015 as a new beginning
I suggest that you two go on vacation for this NYE.
I'm so so sorry. It's not enough, but it's all I've got.
There ought to be a name for today, the first day of the year that's longer than the previous day. I think this is a good day to note that I'm still checking in and thinking of you.