||[Apr. 11th, 2002|11:16 pm]
|||||Just my own gasps of terror||]|
Been thinking a lot about sexuality and relationships. It's sort of in my face regularly because I am my buddy's support system as he goes through this divorce. He is hurting, and it's tough to see. He's had one real relationship in his life, been with her since he was 19,now it's gone, and despite having one hell of a career his identity is just way built around that.
Then during a brief conversation with Shel this evening about "Chasing Amy" and what a schlub Ben Affleck's character is in it there was a comment made about sex not solving problems. It led to this thought from me, which Shel though I should preserve here:
Assuming the only problem isn't frustration, for MOST relationships sex is, in descending order of preference (and this is within relationships, not casual sex):1) The icing on the cake; 2) The oil that keeps things moving; 3) The glue that holds you together; 4)The interlude of forgetting between fights; 5) An act of desparation between two frightened people.
Enough profound thinking for the night. I am trying to work my way through taxes and discovering that my anticipated refund is likely to be a big bill instead--damn that self-employed income!