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Holes in our heads [Aug. 15th, 2004|10:54 am]
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Amy got her ears pierced yesterday. In my family, it is a tradition that the twelfth birthday is celebrated as a rite of passage with ear piercing, but when she turned 12 in February Amy wasn't sure she wanted them pierced, and other parents were very much against it, so I just let it go at the time. On Friday, however, she mentioned that she wanted to get them pierced, and her other parents told her that she they would take her to do it when she went into seventh grade/turned 13. In other words, sometime in the coming school year, they intended to take her and have her ears pierced, despite the fact that John knew from when Erin's were pierced that it was a significant even for me.

I was actually proud of myself. I didn't cow to them, nor did I go behind their back. I called them up and explained that it was important to me to do this for her, and that it had no real significance to them, and that it would really hurt my feelings if they took her to have them pierced. And they agreed that it didn't really make a difference if it was done now or in a couple more months.

So off we went to the mall. I have pierced ears, but rarely wear earrings because they tend to give me headaches. Erin suggested that I try wearing Claire's "Sensitive Solution" earrings steadily for a while and then I should be able to wear others. So I bought a couple pairs.

After Amy's ears were pierced (which involved a mechanical failure of the piercing gun that required the shop girl and me both to wrestle it free from her ear - and thank goddess it was the second ear), we all sat down to have coffee and toast Amy's new ear piercing. I put in the new earrings and mentioned that I used to have my ears double-pierced and was sort of tempted to go back and have them redone. Erin asked if I was certain that the second holes had closed up. I told her that it had been over 20 years since I'd put earrings into the second holes. She said maybe I could still get them in. I tried.

20 years. But both earrings slipped into the holes as if I had worn them yesterday. I was amazed, and thrilled. I now have earrings in again. All three of us bounced through the mall, thrilled with the sparkly bits.

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[User Picture]From: kathrynrose
2004-08-15 03:19 pm (UTC)
Yay! It is so great to hear about you enjoying "girl time" with your daughters.
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[User Picture]From: cathouse_blues
2004-08-15 03:29 pm (UTC)
I had mine pierced the summer before the sixth grade. It was one of the few times my parents gave in and allowed me to follow trends (I was only the fourth girl in a small country school to get it done). There weren't piercing parlors on every mall corner back in nineteen-seventy-nevermind, and so we went elsewhere. My only friend, Angie, lived way off in Schafer Lake but her mother was a nurse and had access to really big needles. I sat at their kitchen table holding a towel while Mrs. Ford numbed my earlobes with ice cubes. I should say "theoretically" numbed my earlobes, because when that first needle went through I let out a scream and ripped that towel in half. She was soooooo upset, but there was nothing to be done but to go ahead and do the other one.

It's always amazed me that as sensitive as my skin is, I could probably wear paper clips in my ears and not have a problem. My mother, who finally got her ears pierced about 15 years ago after much, much nagging for me (and my father's ever-growing frustration with his inability to find her beautiful clip-ons), has to wear sterling silver or 24k gold posts.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2004-08-15 09:47 pm (UTC)
My ears were pierced the first time in the same manner as yours, by my grandmother. She worked at the hospital and she dispensed medical advice and she performed ear piercings and other minor surgery and it wasn't until I was 14 or 15 that I realized she wasn't a nurse - she was a cleaning lady.

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[User Picture]From: chaosdancer
2004-08-15 03:37 pm (UTC)
Lucky lucky...my second piercing closed up without a trace within a year, and the one I had done when I turned 13 closed up too...I'd have to have it redone if I wanted to wear earrings. My nose closed up too, after one day of taking the stud out for a job interview. I guess that's good from a healing perspective, but I wish they'd stay pierced.
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[User Picture]From: kalieris
2004-08-15 06:21 pm (UTC)
Your icon is delightful...

Now I have to find or write a fanfic that has the line "'Kill them!' quacked Voldemort, shaking his tailfeathers in fury, and stamping his little webbed feet."
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[User Picture]From: thejunebug
2004-08-15 04:02 pm (UTC)
I wish I could pierce my ears, but I have an extreme metal allergy. Even the titanium posts did nothing... when I was twelve, my ears didn't heal after nearly a year and kept getting infected. They closed up a day after I took the earrings out. I tried a few years later and had the same results.... a year later the holes still weren't healed and closed over immediately. :( I didn't really feel like a bride without sparkly earlobes on on my wedding day, I confess.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2004-08-15 09:51 pm (UTC)
Bummer - sorry to hear you have such problems, but I bet you were beautiful anyway.
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[User Picture]From: rhapsody_98
2004-08-15 04:02 pm (UTC)
I didn't wear earings for nearly 15 years because of an accident i had when I was 5... Any time I wore earings the holes would get infected. We tried everything from alchohol to Neopsporin, even painting the stems of the earings with nailpolish.

Finally, my boyfriend decided he didn't care if I was allergic to earrings, he was gonna get me some good ones and make me wear them.

Turns out I can actually wear solid gold, but nothing else.
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From: lethecerulre
2004-08-15 06:42 pm (UTC)
Same with me. Thing is that piercing guns aren't proper for piercings, at least not for correct healing. I've had my piercings for 6-9 years now and none of them have healed. I'm just wanting to find out if they can be done right (hollow needle piercing removes the flesh where the earring will be so the ear can scar right instead of trying to figure out where to put the poor flesh that was forced apart). It's just annoying to have to track down solid gold posts when I hate gold and even more annoying to deal with them getting infected frequently.
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[User Picture]From: kid_lit_fan
2004-08-15 04:16 pm (UTC)
How very cool.

I was 18 when I got mine done, and my Mom took me and insisted on paying for it--she told me to get another pair. I hardly ever wear earrings every more, for the same reasons I don't wear contacts or makeup, but I enjoy them when I do--I'm like you, my holes don't close easily.

How cool (for both of you) that Erin can now give you girly advice!
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[User Picture]From: lulybunny
2004-08-15 04:42 pm (UTC)
Mother/daughter bonding rules. Did that the week before last with my mom. We were redecorating my room. :P

I got my ears pierced when I was like 3 months old, so it's not even a memory. For which I am MOST appreciative. I've never gotten anything else pierced, and don't plan on it. LOL.

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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2004-08-15 09:54 pm (UTC)
It's a sort of rite of passage, to me. Which is why I didn't want hers done when I wasn't around.

As far as other piercings, Erin actually repierced her cartilage with an earring on the way to my sister's today. [shudder]
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[User Picture]From: ashna
2004-08-15 04:47 pm (UTC)
Like many other my ears react to the nickel in claires stuff. i got 'stainless steel' loops form thm and it STILL reacted. but the ones I got from the peircers didn't gother me at ALL. It seems to have calmed down now though. Ear didn't reject it and it stopped itching all the friggin time.
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[User Picture]From: lordindra
2004-08-15 05:28 pm (UTC)
Your kids are lucky. These days a kid is lucky to have a single decent parent that gives a crap about them. They have four.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2004-08-15 09:55 pm (UTC)
They do indeed.
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[User Picture]From: astridsdream
2004-08-15 06:07 pm (UTC)
Congrats for handling the situation like adults, all of you.

In my family, it was the thirteenth birthday that was celebrated with pierced ears. Though my brother's thirteenth has come and gone and I see no piercings on him. I'll have to work on that. ;-)
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From: tessbelle
2004-08-15 06:08 pm (UTC)
Yay! Girly sparkly happiness :) It is a mother-daughter event. My mother took me when I was nine. My niece already has hers pierced. I don't know why it's so significant...but it is ;)
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2004-08-15 09:57 pm (UTC)
We have so few ways of celebrating our growing and changing. I firmly believe in creating ritual.
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[User Picture]From: kalieris
2004-08-15 06:17 pm (UTC)
My second piercings are the same - I ignored them for 5 years, and recently discovered that I can still wear earrings in them. I was very excited - and my son thought I was a loon.

Claire's hypoallergenic earrings are good. I had a similar problem with my primary piercings, and wearing the hypoallergenics for a while made a huge difference.

Good on you for negotiating that with the other parents. Amy got to have it made into an Event, and so did you. Very cool. :)
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[User Picture]From: brujah
2004-08-15 07:15 pm (UTC)
YAY sparklies!!

*hugs you because it's a wonderful feeling, even on the outside, to know tradition*

Morgan got her very first pair of hoops this year. Teeny little silver wire, really, but to her the most grown-up hoops known to man.

Her father is set against her wearing anything but studs (particularly the little gold balls her ears were first pierced with), but I have other ideas. She can wear her little hoops so long as it's not a P.E. day ;)

But anyway, *happy thoughts* to you and Erin and Amy!
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2004-08-15 10:00 pm (UTC)
Amy is already saying that she wants a second hole. Once the growing up process starts, it's hard to keep 'em down on the farm. [g]
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[User Picture]From: ladyortyger
2004-08-15 07:38 pm (UTC)
I got mine done when I was thirteen :) when my parents finally agreed.

And I've gone up to a year or two without wearing any, and being able to put some in without much trouble.
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[User Picture]From: apostate_96
2004-08-15 08:07 pm (UTC)
Rites of passage and ceremonies are important, even if on an individual or family level. Glad y'all got to do that together.
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