I'm so sorry to hear about your loss
That is truly terrible. I am so sorry.
Love to your friend of a friend.
That's heartbreaking. I'm sorry to hear that.
2005-10-11 01:02 pm (UTC)
An incredible woman is gone.
It's funny, in it's own way--she taught medieval history, women's history, Scottish reformation stuff--and I know we discussed the subject over pints a time or two.
I am feeling for little Meg, who must be...5-6 now. Beth loved that little one more than anything, and now she is without a mother.
You'd think it was 200 years ago, or something. That this doesn't happen today, that having babies is "safe". It isn't.
Yeah...I'm in a bit of shock atm. But I appreciate having you near, and your understanding.
2005-10-11 01:16 pm (UTC)
Re: An incredible woman is gone.
It mostly is. Like so many other things. Pneumonia mostly doesn't kill healthy people - except Jim Henson. Minor procedures are mostly safe - except the occasional freakish occurence. We are lulled by statistics, until we lose the safety lottery, then the whole world feels out of balance and dangerous.
I am as saddened to hear this as anyone, though I do not know them personally. How did it happen in this day and age, in the US? I know I must sound arrogant, but that sort of thing...aw, shit. I'm sorry.
I don't know the details. I'm not sure my friend does, either. If I were to hazard a guess, it would be acute preeclampsia. A cascade of bad events can lead to disaster, even now.
I am so sorry for your friend's loss. As you say, we just don't expect this sort of thing in this day and age. But pregnancy can be dangerous, it's just that we get lulled into thinking everything will be fine because we have such phenomenal backup from doctors and midwives. We don't get given figures for the third world, but I'd lay odds that the died-in-childbirth syndrome is pretty endemic there, we just don't hear about it and get complacent.
Once again, my deepest condolences to your friend's friend and the husband. Knowing she had such a hard time the first time around, wouldn't you think they would have warned her against a second pregancy?
Even against medical advice, women often have second babies - and more. (Rose Kennedy's doctor told her not to have anymore after the first one and she had, what eleventy-hundred?) I had a tough first delivery, and was exhausted and had trouble recovering, but there was nothing indicative of serious future problems, so no one ever warned me against having another baby - which was much easier.
I'm sorry to hear of her loss.
My condolences. Hard to equate childbirth with death. We have grown complacent.
Mostly, that's a good thing.
That IS really striking. How terrible...
I'm very sorry to hear about this. Being a mother myself, it's really not something the doctors even discuss anymore with prospective parents. I heard a lot about being concerned for the health of the baby, but never anything about the mother.
That's horrible news.
Hugs and comfort to all those who need it.