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You never recognize that you're walking into a Pyrrhic victory [Nov. 2nd, 2008|09:59 am]
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There ought to be a law against setting an alarm clock for 6am on Saturdays. Nevertheless, yesterday morning we groaned our way out of bed at that obscene-for-the-weekend hour and drove in darkness to the other side of town to help catvalente and justbeast load the moving truck that would take them away from us to their new life adventure in Maine.

As often is the case when very busy people with interesting lives and belongings attempt to move, there was a good deal of stuff in their house that defied the confines of boxes - and a shortage of boxes for other stuff. Still, there was the ultimate box: a large empty truck into which stuff would be put. And put stuff into it we did; everything from the piano to the decorative spinning wheel, bagging and wrapping that which couldn't be boxed. Being the bossy control freak that I am, I set myself up inside the truck, along with khiron1416, and we snugged, wedged, and nestled the objects of their lives into the most secure load we could manage.

It's one of those jobs where you get really pumped about doing it right, doing it well, finishing it. And then, with a shout of triumph, you recall that your efforts have all been to accomplish something you really hate to have happen at all: you've efficiently prepared people you love to leave you behind.

Not that your efforts had an effect on the outcome. They were going, without a doubt. They would have gotten it all in their without you. But it's hollow to feel that thrill of accomplishment and then remember what motivated it.

The two of them will be arriving at their new home sometime today. I wish them all happiness. But I'm sorry they are gone.

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[User Picture]From: mamaursula
2008-11-02 04:17 pm (UTC)
*hugs* Now you have a reason to travel to Maine. I hate packing up friends, but it is good to have friends, so what can you do about it?
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[User Picture]From: kathrynrose
2008-11-02 04:23 pm (UTC)
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[User Picture]From: dana3
2008-11-02 04:51 pm (UTC)
Loving them enough to send them off in the best shape you could possibly help make? That's love.
I'm sorry your friends moved away ... I'm glad you've got good friends in one more place to visit!
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[User Picture]From: cyan_blue
2008-11-02 06:56 pm (UTC)
Hugs, and sympathies... it's so hard seeing loved ones off to far places.
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[User Picture]From: roaming
2008-11-02 07:53 pm (UTC)
But hey, New England isn't hat far from you, and is a very nice place to visit, especially during Leaf Peeping Season (that'd be now). I did, from my home town of Manhattan, back in 1973, and then moved here. I'm proud to be an adopted Massachusetts person -- at least because "Puritan" Mass was the first to make same-sex marriage legal, yay us!

So come on by and I'll put on the teakettle, or order in some famous chowdah. :-)
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2008-11-03 01:19 pm (UTC)
If we can ever find time to do so, I will hold you to that offer!
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[User Picture]From: roaming
2008-11-03 05:34 pm (UTC)
It would be our pleasure. We have a comfy guest room right off the kitchen, on a different floor from where we sleep. :-)
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[User Picture]From: vespurrs
2008-11-02 09:00 pm (UTC)
That... sucks. I'm sorry. *hugs*
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[User Picture]From: irishgalinabq
2008-11-02 09:42 pm (UTC)
As someone who has moved a lot, I should let you know how awesome friends like you are. Moving is so stressful and having a control freak is just what you need on the day.

Friends moving away is always sad, but then again, as others mentioned, it is a whole new vacation destination!
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[User Picture]From: ladyhawke_wings
2008-11-03 01:09 am (UTC)
Those above have already stated it elegantly, so I suppose I shall simply add that Mass is along the way, and it sounds like you've several of us happy to host you along your way to visit catvalente and justbeast.

You're a good friend, babe. *hugs*
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2008-11-03 02:24 am (UTC)
Thanks, hon. We do have a number of friends on the way there. wouldn't it be lovely if we didn't have to actually hold down jobs and could make a stately progression across the east to visit them? ;-)
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[User Picture]From: ladyhawke_wings
2008-11-03 03:11 am (UTC)
*laughs* Actually, I think about this more and more each day.... :-D
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