as long as it works, that's all that matters. Best of luck to your mother...
Thanks - it's getting more weird and complex, but maybe good news weird and complex. It might be a bleeding ulcer, or all things.
there are pessimists who always assume the worst and miss out on experiences and opportunities because of it.
there are optimists that always assume the best, don't plan for and often get blindsided by life.
I refer to myself as a "realist". I will try to think the best, but will plan for the worst.
If the worst happens, I have a plan and I'm prepared.
When it doesn't, I'm pleasantly surprised and grateful for the good news.
and of course, I wish the best for your mother.
Thinking good thoughts for your mom. *hugs* Love you.
Love you, too, dear. Thanks so much.
We're on a countdown for my mum right now, which after 15 years or so of increasingly incapacitating Parkinson's is both a relief and a blessing.
I understand what that's like - it's hard to wait through a long, slow illness, but hard to lose someone you love. I'm so sorry for you and your family.
My sisters and I have different ways of coping with such things... My sisters tend to minimize while I try to figure out all possibilities (including the worst case scenario). I guess I like to prepare for the worst while hoping for the best.
My first insight to this difference in coping mechanisms was about 8 years ago. My mother became ill when she was living in Arizona. The doctor ran a battery of tests and discovered that Mom had post-menopausal hormone levels yet she still had regular periods. Additionally he discovered a mild case of hypothyroidism.
I started to research those issues and discovered that the bleeding could be caused by anything from fibroids (normal in women that age) to uterine cancer.
My sisters focused more on joking about goiters than anything else. When I tried to tell them: "Guys, mom could have cancer you know." neither one could process the concept. My middle sister emphatically responded with: "No, Mom CAN'T have cancer." They just could not entertain the idea that our mom might be really sick.
I understand why the differences are there... my job exposes me to all kinds of awful things so my tolerance for horrible stuff is pretty high. Also, I don't like nasty surprises so preparing for the worst and hoping for the best helps avoid life surprising me with a lemon in the face. My sisters however, don't approach the world the same as I do. Not a bad thing, it just is.
Ugh... tl;dr. :P
Anyhow... I hope everything turns out ok for your mom. If your disaster ritual is anything like mine, she will be just fine. :D
Yeah, I'm more on your side than your sisters'. And thanks.
An interesting coping mechanism. If it works for you then it's all to the good.
You are all in my thoughts and I hop eeverything works out ok for your mum.
Thanks so much. Yeah, it's weird, but it works for us.
I hope your mom will be okay. *hugs*
Thanks. She's on her second bag of blood, which is a bit alarming - she was more than a quart low? Wow.
Thinking good thoughts for your mother's health and healing.
I have the same superstition. If I acknowledge and plan to deal with the worst-case scenarios, I feel as if it will ward them off. But if I *forget* to do this, disaster will strike.
I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts.
Thanks. No news until tomorrow. A bit nerve wracking.
Good thoughts and vibes on the way.
And, just to keep up with your silly-awesome family, I have a bad feeling... (But it might be gas.)