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Family is the place where you share the crazy [Oct. 18th, 2010|02:37 pm]
Zoethe
My mother went to her cardiologist today because of shortness of breath. He sent her immediately to the hospital for angioplasty and the replacement of her 10-year-old stent. The fact that there was no appointment, just an immediate trip to the hospital, means that it's reasonably serious. But of course it will probably be just fine.

My brother called to tell me had a bad feeling about this. I told him that I also had a bad feeling about it. And then I talked to my sister Kristi and told her that Bill and I had a bad feeling about it. Pretty soon Michele will call so we can all tell her that we have a bad feeling.

In some families the reaction might be, "OMG, how can you be so negative!?" But among us Judds, this is the way that we ward off disaster. By speaking it aloud, we prove without a doubt that we aren't the least bit psychic. Because the bad thing then never happens.

It's a very backward kind of superstition. But it is our way.

EDIT: Upon getting a blood draw, they discovered that her hemoglobin count is very low, and now think that it might be a bleeding ulcer causing her tiredness and shortness of breath. In any event, low blood count and surgery are not a good mix. So they are giving her a transfusion, running a bunch of tests, and then we'll see what's up after that. Standing by....
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[User Picture]From: halfmoon_mollie
2010-10-18 06:39 pm (UTC)
as long as it works, that's all that matters. Best of luck to your mother...
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2010-10-18 06:45 pm (UTC)
Thanks - it's getting more weird and complex, but maybe good news weird and complex. It might be a bleeding ulcer, or all things.
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From: wildcelticrose
2010-10-18 06:41 pm (UTC)
there are pessimists who always assume the worst and miss out on experiences and opportunities because of it.

there are optimists that always assume the best, don't plan for and often get blindsided by life.

I refer to myself as a "realist". I will try to think the best, but will plan for the worst.

If the worst happens, I have a plan and I'm prepared.

When it doesn't, I'm pleasantly surprised and grateful for the good news.

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From: wildcelticrose
2010-10-18 06:42 pm (UTC)
and of course, I wish the best for your mother.
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[User Picture]From: aiela
2010-10-18 06:52 pm (UTC)
Thinking good thoughts for your mom. *hugs* Love you.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2010-10-18 06:55 pm (UTC)
Love you, too, dear. Thanks so much.
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[User Picture]From: hugh_mannity
2010-10-18 06:55 pm (UTC)
Good luck!

We're on a countdown for my mum right now, which after 15 years or so of increasingly incapacitating Parkinson's is both a relief and a blessing.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2010-10-18 06:57 pm (UTC)
I understand what that's like - it's hard to wait through a long, slow illness, but hard to lose someone you love. I'm so sorry for you and your family.
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[User Picture]From: mariness
2010-10-18 07:31 pm (UTC)
:: crosses fingers ::
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2010-10-18 07:58 pm (UTC)
Thank you.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2010-10-18 07:58 pm (UTC)
Thanks; me too!
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[User Picture]From: parachles
2010-10-18 08:44 pm (UTC)
My sisters and I have different ways of coping with such things... My sisters tend to minimize while I try to figure out all possibilities (including the worst case scenario). I guess I like to prepare for the worst while hoping for the best.

My first insight to this difference in coping mechanisms was about 8 years ago. My mother became ill when she was living in Arizona. The doctor ran a battery of tests and discovered that Mom had post-menopausal hormone levels yet she still had regular periods. Additionally he discovered a mild case of hypothyroidism.

I started to research those issues and discovered that the bleeding could be caused by anything from fibroids (normal in women that age) to uterine cancer.
My sisters focused more on joking about goiters than anything else. When I tried to tell them: "Guys, mom could have cancer you know." neither one could process the concept. My middle sister emphatically responded with: "No, Mom CAN'T have cancer." They just could not entertain the idea that our mom might be really sick.

I understand why the differences are there... my job exposes me to all kinds of awful things so my tolerance for horrible stuff is pretty high. Also, I don't like nasty surprises so preparing for the worst and hoping for the best helps avoid life surprising me with a lemon in the face. My sisters however, don't approach the world the same as I do. Not a bad thing, it just is.

Ugh... tl;dr. :P

Anyhow... I hope everything turns out ok for your mom. If your disaster ritual is anything like mine, she will be just fine. :D
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2010-10-19 12:36 am (UTC)
Yeah, I'm more on your side than your sisters'. And thanks.
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[User Picture]From: call_me_harmony
2010-10-18 09:02 pm (UTC)
An interesting coping mechanism. If it works for you then it's all to the good.

You are all in my thoughts and I hop eeverything works out ok for your mum.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2010-10-19 12:39 am (UTC)
Thanks so much. Yeah, it's weird, but it works for us.
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[User Picture]From: sacramentalist
2010-10-18 09:14 pm (UTC)
I hope your mom will be okay. *hugs*
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2010-10-19 12:40 am (UTC)
Thanks. She's on her second bag of blood, which is a bit alarming - she was more than a quart low? Wow.
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[User Picture]From: cyan_blue
2010-10-18 09:36 pm (UTC)
Thinking good thoughts for your mother's health and healing.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2010-10-19 12:40 am (UTC)
Thanks.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2010-10-19 12:41 am (UTC)
Thanks so much.
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[User Picture]From: ccr1138
2010-10-18 10:39 pm (UTC)
I have the same superstition. If I acknowledge and plan to deal with the worst-case scenarios, I feel as if it will ward them off. But if I *forget* to do this, disaster will strike.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2010-10-19 12:44 am (UTC)
Exactly.
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[User Picture]From: mplsindygirl
2010-10-18 11:17 pm (UTC)
I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2010-10-19 12:48 am (UTC)
Thanks. No news until tomorrow. A bit nerve wracking.
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[User Picture]From: dandelion_diva
2010-10-18 11:52 pm (UTC)
Good thoughts and vibes on the way.
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2010-10-19 12:49 am (UTC)
Thanks.
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[User Picture]From: elbiesee
2010-10-19 12:16 am (UTC)
Good thoughts.

And, just to keep up with your silly-awesome family, I have a bad feeling... (But it might be gas.)
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2010-10-19 12:50 am (UTC)
LOL! Thanks.
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