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Half an hour, and completely terrified [May. 24th, 2011|10:15 am]
Guys, I'm going to the doctor today. This is huge for me. Because of my depression, I've been hiding in in a steadily deteriorating state, growing so inert that some days I feel cast in amber.

Today I'm going to my physician and doing something that's damned near impossible for me: asking for help. I know my cholesterol level is high, I have continued to gain weight, my exercise has been almost nonexistent, and I'm deeply depressed - not the "I'm sad and miserable and constantly crying" depressed, but the "I don't need the world; I can just hole up here in a dark room and sleep" depressed. Which is harder for me to recognize and acknowledge as genuine depression. After all, with enough motivation I can overcome my inertia for a while and I still enjoy some things in life. But I also feel like half this year has slipped away while I've been mostly asleep.

So I need to make changes. Changes for my physical health and changes for my mental health. I've fallen into appallingly bad eating patterns because food is comforting - even though I know that comfort is ephemeral. I haven't been doing anything creative, because it's too much effort. I think about getting out my bike, but somehow never do it.

I avoid journaling, because I find myself repugnant just now and why should I burden all of you with this.

See, I'm supposed to be with-it and together and capable. And in my mind you guys must only like me for those qualities. So if I'm not those things, then I disappoint people - people here, my family and loves, my friends. I don't believe I'm likable just for me, only for what I can give.

I feel like I'm a fake, and trying to hide being a fake. And that has made me alternate between apathetic and cranky. I'm sure I've hurt people's feelings with some abrupt and cantankerous comments that weren't deserved. If I owe you an apology, please tell me so that I can try to make amends.

Mostly right now, I'm scared. I'm scared that I won't be able to make the changes that I need to make to improve my life and health. I'm scared because right now every part of me is screaming "I don't WANNA!!! I wanna eat Cheetos and melt into the couch." I'm scared that I'll make changes and then backslide again and it will all be worse.

Now it's time to get in the car and go to the doctor. And I'm scared of doing that and posting this. But I'm going to do both.

[User Picture]From: kibbles
2011-05-24 03:00 pm (UTC)
Even if you don't have faith in yourself, and are scared, you have the most amazing team out there. It's something I learned to accept over the years, and even embrace. The support around me.

I didn't even LOOK at the comments, and I know you've got it. And not just 'internet support' which, let me tell you, has sustained me as much as people in my walking world do, but people that you can call, and visit, and can visit you, and hang out with you, who will help you come through this to the other side.

So I have faith in you and those around you. Holding you ALL in the light (if that's ok with you). I just don't have that sinking feeling in my gut reading this because my first thought was straight to all you have around you. You made a step by going for help and accepting it with a doctor. Don't forget the medicine of friends and people who want to help (and the medicine of those hired to help, i.e. when I'm in a rough patch and can pull it off, having someone clean, or getting a massage or manicure or mowing the lawn or WHATEVER is cool too).
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[User Picture]From: zoethe
2011-05-25 12:46 am (UTC)
I do have a lot of support, and that's awesome. I am happy to be held in the light. Thank you, dear.
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