|Lean on me, or not
||[Jun. 3rd, 2011|03:07 pm]
"C'mon. It's time to leave for that party."|
"Do we have to? I really don't feel like it."
"Yes, honey. You know you'll have a good time once you're there."
"Hey, let's see if anyone wants to come over tonight!"
"Really? You want company?"
"Sure! It'll be fun."
Two conversations that have happened more than once in my household. Two conversations to which I cannot assign a speaker, because we have both been the initiator and the resister. This is one of those things where both of us have times when we just want to curl up in our dark little hole and never come out again.
This is one of those times when "supporting your partner" can go one of two ways. "Support" can be to stay home with your partner when they just aren't up to facing people.
Or it can mean kicking your partner's butt and getting hir off the couch.
One of the reasons we manage to be as social as we are is because neither of us are willing to let the other disappear into oblivion. It would be just as easy to turn "support" into stasis.
This is not always comfortable for either party.
Sometimes supporting your partner isn't a matter of giving them want they want. Sometimes it's giving them what they need. Or even pushing them toward what they need. It's easy for support to become a deterrent, or even a blanket of lies.