oh so VERY well said. Thank you for this, on a day I really needed to hear it.
2013-06-25 03:22 pm (UTC)
Well written and an important message. Thank you!
And I want to add, if you don't agree withe person saying "get used to it", get a 2nd opinion!
Wonderfully put, and oh so right!
I had a doctor tell me the fix for a sprained ankle was to lose weight. As in, I tripped over something, sprained it and was just looking for some prescription Motrin and to make sure it wasn't broken, but she told me that losing weight would fix it. Ugh.
Especially with the doctor thing. Folks, if your doctor tells you to lose weight when you go in complaining of a cold, or sore fingers, or double vision, then FIND ANOTHER DOCTOR. Their assumptions and prejudices could literally be killing you.
But fat people internalize the message that they are wrong and undeserving, and then they don't change doctors.
I would still be stuck with worsening back pain, because it would have never, ever, gotten fixed by strengthening my core.
when I was much younger - and indeed a bit heavier - I had to change doctors. My 'new' internist was probably around the same age as I was, and outweighed me by a good 50+ pounds. She and I sat down together and looked at my medical records. "So..." she said "Your first problem is that you need to learn to exercise, and the best exercise for you is to push yourself away from the table."
I never went back to her.
I literally gasped! Wow, what bullshit and what harmful "advice" from a medical professional!
Yep. Had a gyn tell me my endometriosis could be cured by diet and exercise. *headdesk* and that's only the most prominent example in my head right now.
But I still do it. I do it all the time, I'm doing it right now. "How much chronic pain should I have before I expect a doctor do do something about it?" I don't know how to answer that question.
I hope you can find a doctor who focuses properly.
I must apologize - I shared your post elsenet with some others who I thought would really resonate with what you have said. I hope you don't mind. I normally ask permission first!
Sharing is always welcome!
2013-06-25 06:18 pm (UTC)
THIS. I thought, for most of my childhood and adolescence, that my asthma was just a side effect of being out of shape. So when the time came yearly to "run the mile" in high school, I would every other day run until I had an attack. Despite the obvious loud squeaky wheezing, my gym teachers would, without fail, *yell at me for not continuing to run.* My chest would ache viciously for the rest of the day. I didn't tell my parents or doctor, believing this to be simple evidence of my lack of physical fitness. It wasn't until I ran to avoid being late for an appointment with another teacher, and had an attack in front of him, that anyone told me this was odd. I got an inhaler, but it took about four years for me to stop fearing exercise, and learn that if I paced myself and used my inhaler as needed, I could actually do whatever I wanted. (Which is definitely not the case for everyone! But I, personally, can run around as I like provided I heed warning signs and respond appropriately instead of just charging ahead until my lungs rebel because I'm afraid someone will yell at me if I pause and rest.)
This is exactly the kind of thing that makes me sad. It's a habit that sneaks up on us.
As an aside, I keep an activity journal on Sparkpeople. On one of my recent posts that was about having a great evening out, playing games, enjoying being outdoors, and NOTHING to do with food or eating other than saying my partner and I picked up sandwiches at Subway that we could enjoy at a park, a member left the following comment:
"Have protein with every meal to curb hunger!"
I am unsure if this account is something to do with spamming, or this person is making some seriously annoying assumptions about my focus and goals. I don't give a good goddamn about your nutritional "advice," thanks. I know how it all works. *stabby*
I think there are people over there who just paste the same comment into blog entries to get their points.
Yeah, I've always told people that I could go to the doctor with my head partially decapitated, and he'd tell me to go home and lose weight, and my head would reattach.
I feel very fortunate that my doctor has never, ever taken that kind of approach.
I don't normally comment without reading the other comments but this post...just...yes. So much yes.
A few years ago, I went to the doctor for a regular fibro checkup. I was working out doing aqua aerobics at the pool 3-5 times a week and I noticed I was having trouble catching my breath during exercise that never bothered me before. I brought it up to my doc and he said, "Let's be frank. You aren't in the best of shape and you are overweight. It's no surprise exercise is hard."
Yeah, it stung, but he WAS right...but no, he wasn't. I had been exercising for three months. I had lost 40lbs and the issue with losing my wind had just started.
Two months later I hurt my back and went to the ER. The doc noticed I seemed to lose my breath quickly and my lips and nailbeds were blue. Turns out I wasn't out of breath because I was fat. I was losing my breath because my lungs were FILLED with blood clots and I was dying. I spent 2 weeks in ICU on three monitors and had 2 emergency surgeries. I was told I got blood clots because I was fat. I believed my doctor for about a week and then started asking questions. Lo and Behold! I have a clotting disorder that causes THIS exact thing, often at THAT exact age.
None of this happened because I was fat. None of it. I'm so tired of doctors looking at me and blaming all my problems on being fat. MAYBE some shit just isn't related or I'm fat because everything hurts so much it is hard to get out of bed some days and MAYBE if we dealt with that I could exercise more.
Yeah there is shit I could be doing better, I recognize that and I will do it, but I hate when docs just disregard my concerns because all they see is 185lbs on a slight frame of 5'6".
2013-06-26 01:00 am (UTC)
Re: Rant ahead!
My god, that just makes me livid. Did you ever confront the doctor about his misdiagnosis?
My husband got that when he started having stomach trouble. :| Yes, he's very fat, but being fat doesn't generally cause terrible cramping diarrhea at random (well, random until we started to figure out his new food sensitivities) times!
It started like a year ago and he's only now getting appointments with specialists.
That's appalling. At least you kept trying.