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It's a jungle out there [Jul. 20th, 2015|01:14 pm]
My back garden, that lovely place I created for myself back in 2003, has gone so far to weed that I won’t even take a picture of it. Suffice to say, the weeds are the height of corn all around the bee hive.

We had one hive survive, and they are intrepid jungle fliers, just to get out of that mess. The other hive has undoubtedly, in its abandoned state, been taken over by ants and wax moths.

The thing is, I *want* to like gardening. I want to want to be out there, puttering around. I want to grow tomatoes and peppers, and enjoy that beautiful space.

I just don’t want it enough to do anything about it. And I’m not quite sure what to do about that. We have people who mow for us, but the cost of their weeding and such is prohibitive. And I have guilt about having people do that work when it’s something I want to want to do.

Right now it’s hot and humid, and that’s my excuse for not going out there. Also, I have work to do. Also also, allergies. But really? I’m finding the guilt easier to live with than the actual work would be. Even though I know from experience that if I did it I would be happier, and proud of myself. I just can’t quite get myself to go.

[User Picture]From: greybeta
2015-07-20 10:51 pm (UTC)

'Tis a classic paralysis paradox, Mrs. Ferrett. If you feel so inclined, may I suggest a classic solution? Set a five minute timer and go full bore gardening for five minutes. Once those five minutes is over, you can stop if you'd like. The trick is to convince our mind that we accomplished something. This is surprisingly effective for dealing with large messes, even if we don't clean up very much in our first two or three go arounds. Somehow, some way, our brain clicks and a snowball effect occurs to push us into doing the rest of the necessary work. It's not 100% successful but it's an option.

Please forgive me if I'm being too much of a Type A personality at the moment.

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[User Picture]From: ariaflame
2015-07-21 12:42 am (UTC)
The 5 minute thing does work and if it is a BIG job then do stop after 5 or if you get enthused 10 minutes. Do the same the next day. The little bits build up.
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[User Picture]From: custardfairy
2015-07-21 01:13 pm (UTC)
I hear you on this. I have been putting off weeding my nice new front garden area because it just seems too hard, it's too hot, etc. I think I might be afraid to find out that I'm not physically able to do it, that I'm weaker and more out of shape than I know.

It's silly but it isn't. :/

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[User Picture]From: bunny42
2015-07-21 08:54 pm (UTC)
My solution has been to hire somebody for a one-time cleanup that is so much easier to maintain, when you start from square one. A combination of being away, rain every single afternoon, and a broken string trimmer made my yard absolutely overwhelming. I considered the money to be an investment in my peace of mind. Now that it's manageable again, I'll keep with it. But I like that 10-minute approach. So often I find the problem is really one of inertia, the anticipation being way more off-putting than the actual chore.
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[User Picture]From: irishgalinabq
2015-07-22 02:15 am (UTC)
I was in the same place. Knee high weeds. I found a deal on Angie's list. 4 hours of gardening with 4 people for $165. So worth it. Once it was all weeded back I was able to mulch and finish it off.
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